First, Do What's Best For You And Your Mental Health

First, Do What's Best For You And Your Mental Health

It's okay to put yourself first sometimes.

Your mental health is so important and absolutely nothing that you should be ashamed of. It is something that you should learn to love about yourself and make sure you take care of, not only yourself but also your mental health. Mental health has such a negative stigma around it still when really we should be me open about it and the ways that we can help our friends, loved ones and even ourselves deal with it and learn to live with it.

Mental health is such a broad overstatement but does anyone really know how many different types of mental health there are, how many different things people can suffer from that is included under the mental health umbrella? When most people hear that someone is suffering from a mental illness they usually think that most people are talking about depression, anxiety or bipolar disorder, while this can be true and is common there are so many more disorders out there and no matter where under the umbrella you fall, your mental health is just as important as everyone else's.

Learning to love your mental health is an extremely hard thing to do. Trust me, it is something that I struggle with every day of my life but it isn’t impossible and it makes life so much brighter when you start loving your mental health and yourself. So many great things happen in your life when you start loving your mental health. Here a just a few amazing things that happen when you start to love your mental health: getting out of bed is so much easier, showering becomes a normal thing and not something that only happens once a week, interacting with people becomes just a little bit easier. Now, I know not everyone deals with those issues but those a just a few examples. Start loving your mental health and see where it take you because I would love to know.

Your mental health is the most important thing in the world so please take care of it and yourself. Don’t be ashamed of it, do what is best for you. If that means taking a semester off, that’s OK, if that means attending therapy two times a week that’s OK, if that means taking medicine to balance it out that’s OK. All of these things and more are OK and if anyone ever shames you for these things or anything else, don’t listen to them because nine out of ten times it is because they are too scared to get help for their own mental health. Do what is best for YOU, not everyone else, because in the end, you are the most important in your life, always remember that.

No matter what you suffer from, whether it is the most common mental health issue or a mental health issue that is super uncommon and most haven’t heard of, your mental health is still valid and important.

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An Open Letter To The Judgmental People In My Hometown

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Dear judgemental, simple minded people from my hometown,

I am sorry that I have never met your level of perfection.

Coming from a small town, everyone settles to the norm of the people around them. Unlike you all, I have always been a little bit different.

I've never understood why everyone always seems to feel the need to talk down to the next person. People love to gossip about a situation as long as the situation has nothing to do with them. For every move I made, someone was always there to bring out the negativity in the situation. You all are always sweeping around somebody else's doorstep when I know your doorstep is not clean. Maybe it is time to buy a new broom. I know that I cannot please everybody and that I will also not be liked by everybody. However, I deserve respect just as the next person.

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I hope for the sake of the future generations of our small town, you all can learn to be more accepting to change.

I hope that no one judges your children like some of you all have judged me. I hope that the people that you love and care about are welcomed and accepted for who they are.

If we put as much time into being better people or helping others like you put into judging others, the world would be a much better place.

Imperfections are what gives a diamond its value. Pebbles are perfectly round. I'd much rather be a diamond, one in a million, than a pebble that fits in.


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The Beautiful Benefits Of Mindfulness

Being mindful is important for self-improvement and growth.


As a college student, life can be stressful. One must juggle a social life, academics, and sometimes a part-time job to boot. It's not an easy task, and with daily interactions with others, drama is sure to ensue.

A good way to go about dealing with stress and conflict is mindfulness. Mindfulness is about focusing on the present, letting go of the past, and not fixating on the future. It's about enjoying the here and now, and appreciating your life — rather than lamenting it.

Focusing intently on the future or past events is not healthy, especially for personal growth. One cannot change the past, no matter how much they want to. Obsessing over past grievances and transgressions will do no one any good and is a fruitless endeavor. Planning for the future rather than enjoying the present takes away from the joys of living.

As a human, it's natural to feel hurt and to hold grudges. We want apologies when people are mean or have wronged us. However, we can't control others' actions — only how we react to and behave. Mindfulness is about being the bigger person, letting go of personal vendettas and not being petty.

It's hard to do this, especially as people often are reluctant to accept their role in the conflict. It's hard to accept not being right, especially when conflict occurs. The best remedy for this is to acknowledge the other side, empathize with the person you're in conflict with, and then accept what has happened.

Mindfulness allows us to stay in the present, become more self-aware, and not overreact to events in life. No one can control what happens in their life or how people behave. It's vain to think so.

Meditation and mindfulness are very similar. They both allow people to slow down, think, and contemplate things. It's effective in reducing stress, accepting misfortunes, and letting go of the little things. Mindfulness is also crucial in learning self-love and forgiveness.

It's common for people to be their own worst enemy. It's hard to forgive ourselves, especially when we make mistakes and let people down. No one wants to feel like a failure or to disappoint people. But beating ourselves up isn't the solution — it only allows one to wallow in self-pity rather than learn and grow from their mistakes. No one is perfect — we all mess up in life. It's how we learn from our mistakes and grow from them that makes the difference.

Forgiving ourselves is hard, but forgiving other is even harder. Learning to empathize and sympathize with someone who has wronged us is a marker of true character, and frees us. Hatred is a terrible emotion that ties down both parties. It's beneficial to let go of hatred and learn to accept.

Learning mindfulness is incredibly helpful, as it allows people to move on from the past, stop fixating on the future, and instead live fully in the present.

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