What does your mental appearance look like? What kind of state do you live in on a daily basis? How would you define yourself?
I've come to find out that however you feel about yourself, bad or good, effects every aspect of your life. Your friendships, relationships, co-workers, or just casual bystanders.
Most of the way we feel about ourselves up until we are old enough to gather our own information about ourselves, is based around the way we were raised, who we hang around, who we love, and who loves us.
As humans, we casually tend to see ourselves through the eyes of others. If we get too caught up in the false misconception for how someone else views us, do they personally know us? Will they ever personally know us?
I feel like there's a blank barrier in between our thoughts, and reality. A barrier that needs to be exposed. There's millions of ways that personal connection can be established, some stronger than others, some more genuine than others, some not clear enough to even seem like a connection. Not every person is going to see every spark of action that makes you, you.
What does the barrier contain? I feel like it is mainly the act of feeling misunderstood. If someone doesn't understand how we feel, it can make us feel like we don't understand ourselves. Sometimes even making us feel unworthy of what we truly want to feel.
But what exactly holds us back from showing others who we truly are?
The explicit insecurity that we just...aren't good enough.
Not necessarily being not good enough for that person. But not being good enough for what you feel like this person deserves. It makes complete sense.
But if you openly give more, then you're at stake to be disliked, unappreciated, or unloved. Whatever you are open about has to mean more to you than all of these insecurities. And that's where we can get stuck. Your ego takes a beating. Sometimes it can take a few days, weeks, even months to shake off. Depending how powerful of an effect it has on you.
From this, I have observed that with being confident in what you say or show to someone, it can ultimately increase the flow of the relationship. Making the other person feel comfortable enough to be themselves and allowing them to connect with themselves while connecting with you in a more comprehensive way.
It doesn't make it real until you make it real. And that's the scariest part of it all. Until then, it becomes avoidable. Almost easy enough to never really grasp what it is that you want to hold in your hands. Sometimes it can become avoidable even after it's surfaced.
It's easy being scared, the most untroubled way to be neutral. But it inhibits a better understanding of yourself and who you see yourself to be. Closing the outside world off makes it harder to feel okay inside. It's surely possible and an acquired taste for many, but certainly not the healthiest choice.
The fact that we are missing a profuse amount of chances to be close to one another doesn't make it any less easier to actually want to get close to one another. Although, there's freedom on the other side.
It's okay to guard your heart, but it's so important to have a healthy relationship with it. Balancing the two can be tricky.
People only know us for how much we choose to let them see.
I want to feel accepted just as much as the person next to you wants to feel accepted, despite how they see themselves in their head.
All of these things you don't think effect you, effect you.
Take your behavior for instance, every single move you make outside of your mind and body reflects exactly how you feel inside your mind and body. That's crazy. And almost inconceivable to believe that we radiate all this stuff. Another crazy thing is that we attract it too.
We are literally super humans, and all in the same boat. Some have learned how to identify their brains more than others. And that's okay. Because you will know when your time is ready to accept the growth placed on your mental capabilities. But at least we can attempt to make sense of it all since other people may be involved from time to time.
What people don't understand is the authentic self is pure love. That's where all the beauty is. Everything else is just a sneak peek.
Don't be afraid to open up more often. Let people see how great you are. Because you just might fall deeply in love with yourself along the way.
