Men Need To Stop Giving Their Opinions In 2019

Men Need To Stop Giving Their Unsolicited Opinions In 2019

To all men: thank you for your opinion, but I didn't ask for it.

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So, I need to talk about something.

I have recently experienced a few instances where men have come up to me (random men, might I add) and given me their unsolicited opinions. I just have to say that I'm OVER IT.

Let me start with the first time.

I was at the FL/GA game (GO GATORS) with all of my friends just having the best time of my entire life. Like, I was truly living. The weather was amazing, I had a white claw with a metal straw (save the turtles), and I was happily snacking on some popcorn chicken and pigs and a blanket. Over the period of a few hours tailgating, I had to take the treacherous trip to the porta potties more than once. Gross, I know, but a girl has to do what she has to do, and once you break the seal, there's no going back. Anyways, this was one of the many times I made the journey, and I was patiently waiting for a stall to open up, minding my own business.

Many people would pass by me saying "GO GATORS!" as we do to our fellow fans, and one man, in particular, did the same. He was probably aged in his 40s, with a beer belly and a can in his hand to match. He comes up to me with his buddy and says Go Gators!, reaching his hand out to give me a high-five. As he comes closer, he looks at me close and goes, "Wow, you would be so much prettier without all that makeup on."

EXCUSE ME?

YOU'RE telling ME advice on MAKEUP???? Ha! Hahaha! This is a joke, right? Obviously, my makeup looked snatched that day, because, hello FL/GA, and I wasn't even wearing that much! Like, by my standards at least. It was the usual foundation, concealer, contour, blush, highlight, eyeshadow, mascara, eyebrows. That's IT. Maybe a lot for commoners like this jerk, but nonetheless it looked fabulous if I do say so myself. Not cakey at all. Thank you, setting spray.

I stood in disbelief. "Ok, haha, bye," I said as they walked away. Basically just shook at what had just happened. My feelings weren't hurt in the slightest. I knew I looked good and I knew this guy didn't have the slightest idea of what he was saying. But, who did he think he was coming up to me and giving me his negative opinion of me? I would NEVER go up to a stranger and say anything like that, except maybe going up to them and giving them a compliment or asking where they got their top.

Why do men think this is OK?

The other day I was out in my hometown and I was standing on the sidewalk outside the bar waiting for my uber. I was wearing overalls and a hat because I had been out all day rooting for the Gators then the Lighting (Go Bolts) so I was in full casual attire. Plus, I was on day four hair and instead of drenching it in dry shampoo, I thought I would just sport a cute hat with some team pride and say f*ck it.

So, I was waiting for the uber and two guys (yet again, do the rude ones come in pairs? Do they need someone next to them to boost up the testosterone count and give them the confidence to approach a woman?) come up to me. One says in passing that I look like an Instagram model, quite a compliment in (then) 2018, while the other one says I would look so much more beautiful without the hat.

Dare I say it again: EXCUSE ME????

Does this only happen to me? Any other girls out there minding their own business with men giving them unsolicited opinions on the street? I used to think I wasn't that approachable, you know, with the RBF and all, but maybe I was wrong. Maybe I am extremely approachable ---so much so that random men feel it necessary to give me their opinions on my appearance. Its completely rude and unacceptable, not to mention they know NOTHING about beauty or fashion. I mean, come on. All I have to say is this would never happen the other way around. Yes, I do give fashion advice when prompted, but not to random guys on the street! I motion for men to keep their negative opinions to themselves in 2019.

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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.
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It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning.

You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret.

So here are 20 tattoos you can't go wrong with. Each tattoo has its own unique meaning, but don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!

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1. A semicolon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.


2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."


3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.


4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."


5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."


6. Greek symbol of Inguz: Where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."


8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya).


9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty, and artistic creativity.


10. The Greek word “Meraki" means to do something with soul, passion, love, and creativity or to put yourself into whatever you do.


11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from "The Hobbit." It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.


13. “Lux in tenebris" means “light in darkness."

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength and stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora" is translated literally as “Towards greater things." It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.


16. A glyph means “explore." It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."


18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower's first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe and the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can remind us of the inconsistency of life. It also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.


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11 Things You NEVER Say To A College Girl Trying To Get Into Shape

Just never talk about a person's weight.

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When my family and friends joked that I was going to gain 15 pounds in my freshman year of college as a result of the "Freshman 15," I thought it was what it was supposed to be: a joke. However, as the year has come to an end, I realized that I actually did put on a couple of pounds, albeit it wasn't the predicted 15.

As I told those that I wanted to get into an ideal shape for my body, I was met with some insensitive and ignorant remarks. Everyone thought that I mean just losing the weight I had put on.

1. "You walk to all of your classes, why aren't you losing weight that way?"

My legs are more toned than they ever have been before. However, most of the weight I have been gaining has gone directly to my gut (annoying!) and walking does not remedy that. Unfortunately, I have to stick to ab workouts.

2. "But you look fine to me!"

I don't feel healthy to myself. I'm not trying to stay in shape for anyone else, just myself, thanks. I appreciate you trying to make me feel better about my body image but I know something has to be done.

3. "I didn't gain any weight in college."

Good for you. I did. I'm trying to do something about it.

4. "Just stop drinking."

I don't drink. Really, the only liquid I consume is water or iced tea. I don't like soda and alcohol makes me nauseous way too easily.

5. "Isn't the gym free on campus for students?"

Yes, but some people don't like working out in front of others. I am one of those people. My friend lives in an apartment complex that has their own gym and almost no one is ever there but not everyone has that luxury. Also, some are busy and do not have time for a quick jog or to stretch.

6. "You should try this diet/pills/exercise routine."

I am thankful that you are trying to help but my diet is just eating healthy and having a few cheat days in between. I know what exercises work best for me and I am just not taking pills. Bodies adjust differently.

7. "Don't starve/force yourself to throw up."

Trust me, I know. I'm trying to lose the weight healthily. If you do find yourself practicing unhealthy eating habits or realizing your body image is deteriorating, the NEDA Hotline is (800) 931-2237. Please reach out if you are going through hardships.

8. "Won't you have to buy a whole new wardrobe?"

If I drop (or even add) a size or two. We grow out and grow tired of clothes on the regular, what's the difference if you have to buy some because of a weight change? Plus, who doesn't love buying new clothes?

9. "Just eat healthier."

Didn't think of it! Options are limited at college where the dining halls don't offer all that much that is actually good for your body. Now that I'm at home, it's easier. But I'm already trying to eat healthy.

10. "You've evened out since the last time I saw you!"

This is code for you've put on some weight. I hear it mostly from older relatives because my friends will flat out tell me if I've gotten a little chunky.

11. "You're just stressed."

Personally, this one gets me livid. I do admit that when I am stressed or anxious, I do turn to food for comfort but when I am delighted and genuinely happy, will my body magically revert into a fit state?

Sadly, no.

Honestly, I am just trying to get my body back into shape. For me, that means cutting back on greasy foods and kicking a bad habit of sitting on my butt all day. For others, it could mean more or less. As long as your body is in good physical condition and you are content, the number on the scale and others' thoughts shouldn't matter. Take care of yourself.

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