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10 Little Things In Long-Term Relationships That Mean The Most

It's a cliche, but it's the little things that count the most.

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When you first get together with someone, everything is perfect and life seems outrageously beautiful in every possible. The "honeymoon phase" is great, but what I really love is the time when you get into a stride with your significant other and you love everything about them so that when these little things happen it just reminds you that they love you too.

1. "I love you" texts

These are so simple and go such a long way. Even being together for a couple years, I still get butterflies when I unexpectedly open my phone to an "I love you" text.

2. Hearing them laugh

Hearing the person you love let out a full-belly laugh is the best thing to hear. It means that they're happy, and if they're happy then it just makes you that much happier.

3. When they first grab for your hand while you're walking

It's reassuring that even if your hands get sweaty, you have someone there to hold your hand (even if it is only for 30 seconds before it gets too sweaty to continue).

4. Flowers, chocolates, and/or wine

Just do this. Do this for your boyfriend, girlfriend, mom, friend, dad, grandparents, anyone. Really this is just a nice gesture. The flowers smell nice, the chocolate tastes good and wine is good for everyone (except for minors, and please drink responsibly).

5. Soft smiles

They can pop up randomly throughout the day, whether it is about something they remembered or something happening right now. Seeing the person you love happy and showing it is one of the best feelings in the world.

8. Listening to them get excited about something

Like the soft smiles, someone geeking out about the things they love is so exciting to watch. You might not understand what they are saying, but at this point, that doesn't matter. It only matters that they are so happy in that moment.

7. Joking about a cartoon or meme

Old Gregg is and forever will be my favorite meme. My boyfriend and I quote this meme almost daily — okay let's be real, we quote it hourly, and it's just something that makes me smile on the inside so much because it's our own weird thing that we have.

8. Being together in silence

Just sitting together in silence is so peaceful. Whether you are states away and just listening to silence on the other side of the phone or sitting next to each other tired and not wanting to move, silence can be nice when you get it.

9. Pictures on your desk

Nothing beats coming home after a rough day and seeing the person you love even if they're far away. It's different than having them on your phone because it's on display for you to see and remember the time that the picture was taken.

10. Squeezes

The gentle squeeze of reassurance to let you know that you're not alone and that everything is okay means everything. It's something simple to take your mind off whatever is bothering you and to just relax and know that you're okay. Being with the person you love shouldn't be stressful (at least not all the time), and these squeezes remind you of that.

If you're ever sitting there wondering if your significant other still loves you despite any of the crazy stuff you do, these things are the best to reassure yourself that everything is fine and still working great. Long-term relationships don't have to get boring, even if you do do some of the same things. Remember the little things, because they do go a long way.

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Nicole Lohmueller

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.
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Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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Don't Feel Bad For Me When I Say I'm In A Long-Distance Relationship

There's no need for anyone to say, "oh, that sucks" or "that's annoying" or "I don't know how you do it" because I really do love my relationship.

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When I first went out with my boyfriend, I wasn't expecting anything to come from it. He was in the Marines, stationed in South Carolina, and it was just a stupid Tinder date because I was bored and I thought he was funny and cute over Snapchat. Not only did he live an eight-hour drive away, but he was also heading out of the country for Christmas. I never thought I would ever hear from him again after I got into my car and drove back home.

But, I did, and a year and a half later, going on that coffee date was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

Right from the start, I knew if he and I were going to date, we would have to face a long-distance relationship for roughly two to three years- whether I finished school first or he got out of the military was up to fate. For us, being apart is normal. We're so used to talking through FaceTime rather than face to face and not seeing each other for weeks on end is more familiar than hugging. We've probably blown more kisses through the phone than having had real kisses.

Would I love to be just a minutes drive away from him?

Absolutely.

Would I trade my relationship for anything else?

Never.

There's no reason for you to feel bad for me when I tell you I'm in a long distance relationship.

There's no need for anyone to say, "oh, that sucks' or "that's annoying" or "I don't know how you do it" because I really do love my relationship.

Being away from each other is just something we do. It lets us be independent, focus on work and school, but still allows us to support each other. Sure, long-distance relationships aren't for everyone, but couples make them work. No relationship is normal and like every other relationship, it takes patience, learning, and commitment. The only difference between a 'normal' relationship and a long-distance relationship is is that our 'date nights' consist of eating dinner together over FaceTime instead.

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