I May Be Shy, But Please Give Me a Chance

I May Be Shy, But Please Give Me a Chance

Behind my quiet exterior, is an amazing, bright, intelligent girl who just wants to be accepted.

I know what you're thinking. I barely talk, and I don't seem to want to talk to anyone. It seems as if I go out of my way to try and avoid you. It seems as if I don't even like you, or I don't even want to get to know anyone. But that's not the case. Let me explain.

What I have is social anxiety. In no way does it mean I don't want to get to know you, or to become friends with you. It means that I am purely shy. When I am faced with an awkward situation, my immediate instinct is to stay quiet. I don't know why, but I just can't help it. I have been this way my whole life. I really want to get to know you, I really do. But my shyness holds me back.

But there is one thing I want everyone to know. My shyness and social anxiety does NOT mean that I shouldn't be given any chances. Behind my shy exterior is an amazing, bright, bubbly, intelligent girl who just wants to be accepted. If you take the time to get to know me, I can be hilarious. I have great experiences with leadership and taking charge, and if you look past my brick wall of quietness, I can do a bomb a** job of performing a task. My shyness should not be a conclusion when it comes to my capability. Please don't ever judge one another by your first impression, because chances are, that isn't their real self. It takes time to really get to know someone, and once you do, it will be all worth it. You may even end up being impressed by what the originally quiet, but actual spunky personality has to offer.

Because of my social anxiety and how quiet I am, I have missed out on a lot of chances. Yes, my social anxiety is a part of me for life, but I should still be able to be given a chance. I was once denied a counselor position because the camp director judged me on my quietness based when I was a child. What she failed to do was give me a chance and see what I had to offer, and how I've grown. So I moved on to a different camp, and ended up earning a camp counselor position there, all because I was given a chance.

So, to everyone out there, please give everyone a chance. Please disregard anything, whether it's shyness, race, religion, perspectives, etc. We all deserve it, and chances are that person may do a phenomenal job on whatever you're asking of them.

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

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So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

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17 Lessons For 21 Years, Brought To You By Tequila And Other Alcohol I Should Never Drink Again

Like vodka, and Bud Light, and, and, and...


As 21 approaches, I'm both scared for what's to come and incredibly excited for new experiences. Twenty-one is a big deal, but with that comes college graduation, full-blown adulthood, and the big, wide world. Before that can happen, though, we must reflect on high points, mistakes, and just plain "What the f*ck was I thinking?!" moments.

Here are 21 lessons for 21 years, brought to you almost always by too much alcohol.

1. Seriously, if it's after 2 a.m. just go to sleep 


Don't text your ex. Don't assume that one more drink is okay. Just don't.

2. You can't stay up super late and still make it to that 8 a.m.


I promise you, if you're up late, you might as well just scrap the idea of making it and start fresh next time. Take it from the girl who has had to give herself one too many morning pep talks.

3. He's not worth it


He's not worth your tears or your wasted time waiting for him to become the good person you just know he can be.

4. No matter how cute he is


Nope, still not worth it.

5. Know when it's time to walk away


You deserve better.

6. Block his number, don't just delete it


Honey, the temptation will still be there.

7. If you don't block his number, you will want to text him at some point. Don't do it.


No "I miss you," no "come over"... Nothing.

8. Your friends are there for a reason,  so don't second guess their intentions 


If they didn't want to support you, they wouldn't.

9. Some friends aren't forever, and that's OK


College teaches you that more than anything else ever will.

10. You're allowed to let loose every once in awhile 


Yes, seriously.

11. But don't make a habit of it 


You'll regret it later.

12. It's OK to be the "Mom" or the "Grandma" in the friend group 


You can bug your friends to make sure they got home safe, be the DD, cook them dinner, whatever you do. They'll appreciate it, and no, you aren't weird for it.

13. Coffee is always the answer


Sad? Coffee. Happy? Coffee. Stressed? Relaxed? Coffee.

14. But sometimes (most of the time) wine is the answer too 


See moods above, and then add every other emotion. Wine can fix that.

15. Your mom should be your BFF


Because when wine doesn't cut it, Mom's pep talks always do.

16. Mr. Right might not be found at a college frat party


Probably not, actually.

17. You are still growing up, and don't need all of the answers


Not yet, anyway.

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