I May Be Shy, But Please Give Me a Chance

I May Be Shy, But Please Give Me a Chance

Behind my quiet exterior, is an amazing, bright, intelligent girl who just wants to be accepted.

I know what you're thinking. I barely talk, and I don't seem to want to talk to anyone. It seems as if I go out of my way to try and avoid you. It seems as if I don't even like you, or I don't even want to get to know anyone. But that's not the case. Let me explain.

What I have is social anxiety. In no way does it mean I don't want to get to know you, or to become friends with you. It means that I am purely shy. When I am faced with an awkward situation, my immediate instinct is to stay quiet. I don't know why, but I just can't help it. I have been this way my whole life. I really want to get to know you, I really do. But my shyness holds me back.

But there is one thing I want everyone to know. My shyness and social anxiety does NOT mean that I shouldn't be given any chances. Behind my shy exterior is an amazing, bright, bubbly, intelligent girl who just wants to be accepted. If you take the time to get to know me, I can be hilarious. I have great experiences with leadership and taking charge, and if you look past my brick wall of quietness, I can do a bomb a** job of performing a task. My shyness should not be a conclusion when it comes to my capability. Please don't ever judge one another by your first impression, because chances are, that isn't their real self. It takes time to really get to know someone, and once you do, it will be all worth it. You may even end up being impressed by what the originally quiet, but actual spunky personality has to offer.

Because of my social anxiety and how quiet I am, I have missed out on a lot of chances. Yes, my social anxiety is a part of me for life, but I should still be able to be given a chance. I was once denied a counselor position because the camp director judged me on my quietness based when I was a child. What she failed to do was give me a chance and see what I had to offer, and how I've grown. So I moved on to a different camp, and ended up earning a camp counselor position there, all because I was given a chance.

So, to everyone out there, please give everyone a chance. Please disregard anything, whether it's shyness, race, religion, perspectives, etc. We all deserve it, and chances are that person may do a phenomenal job on whatever you're asking of them.

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22 New Things That I Want To Try Now That I'm 22

A bucket list for my 22nd year.


"I don't know about you but I'm feelin' 22," I have waited 6 long years to sing that and actually be 22! Now 22 doesn't seem like a big deal to people because you can't do anything that you couldn't do before and you're still super young. But I'm determined to make my 22nd year a year filled with new adventures and new experiences. So here's to 22.

1. Go sky diving.

What's crazier than jumping out of a plane? (Although I'll probably try indoor skydiving first.)

2. Go cliff jumping/diving.

I must be the only Rhode Islander who hasn't gone to Jamestown and jumped off a cliff.

3. Ride in a hor air balloon.

Up, up and away.

4. Try out skiing.

Cash me in the next Olympics, how bout dat.

5. Try out snow boarding.

Shawn White, I'm coming for you.

6. Go bungee jumping.

Because at least this time I'll be attached to something.

7. Go to Portugal.

I mean I'm Portuguese so I have to go at some point, right?

8. Go to Cape Verde.

Once again, I'm Cape Verdean so I have to go.

9. Vist one of the seven wonders of the world.

I mean hey, Egypt's on, my bucket list.

10. Try out surfing.

It's only natural that somebody from the Ocean State knows how to surf.

11. Learn a new langauge.

Because my little bit of Portuguese, Spanish and Latin isn't cutting it anymore.

12. Travel to a state that I've never been to before.

Fun fact: I've only been to 17 of the 50 states.

13. Go paddle boarding.

Pretty boring but I've never done it.

14. Go scuba diving.

I'm from the Ocean State so I guess I should see the ocean up close and personal.

15. Learn how to line dance.

There's actually a barn in my state that does line dancing, so this one will definitely get crossed off.

16. Go kayaking.

All this water around me and I haven't done a lot of the water activites.

17. Stay the night in a haunted hotel room.

I bet if I got my friends to come with me, it would be like the Suite Life of Zach and Cody episode, minus the ghost coming out of the wall but you never know.

18. Get my palms read.

Because who doesn't want to know their future.

19. Go to a medium.

Like a medium that can communicate with people that have died.

20. Take a helicopter ride.

Air plane: check Helicopter:....

21. Sleep under the stars.

Because sleeping in a tent is more like glamping than camping

22. Just to try new things in my everyday life.

Whether it's trying a new restaurant, getting something different at my usual restaurants, changing my usual style, going on the scary rides at amusement parks, and bringing things I used to do back into my life now.

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Pride: A poem

Hell, I still love you.


The word love

Is a very complex one;

Often times thrown around

far more often than it should be.

I knew the true meaning of love when

I first laid my eyes upon you

You were perfect.

Perfect in ways you could not even yet conceptualize.

I gave you life;

But, you became my life.

Your first word.

Your first day at school.

Moments that made life worth living.

One day you said you felt different;

You didn't feel like everyone else;

You'd felt this way for years

But this feeling was not just a feeling;

It was who you were.

The masses played with video games and played rough sports—

You didn't;

You were delicate.

Far more delicate than other boys.

You may not have played with the same toys,

But, hell, I still love you.

It only seems like yesterday,

You told me you had gone astray

From the normal social stigma

But you are still my little boy,

And, hell, I still love you.


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