During the past few years, I have always found happiness in relationship after relationship. But now that I have been single for a few months and plan on being single for a while longer, I have found that I do not need a relationship to be happy. I have gotten closer to God, because I see this as a chance to spend time alone with my Father. I have learned quite a lot about being single during the past few months. I have become more independent and spend my time focusing on others and my future.
I see singleness as an opportunity to do what I won't be able to in the future when I have a family. This consists of spending and making my own money, and being able to focus on my friends and family more. When I became single, I decided to pick a few friends that I would spend a lot of time and effort on, instead of being in a relationship with one person. I have seen many of my friendships blossom since I started doing this, and definitely recommend it. I have also gotten closer to my family, and it has been a special time spent with them. I am using my singleness as a time to go on mission trips and serve God in a way that will be harder to when I have a future family. My schedule is more flexible as a single person, which is something that I will miss when I am married.
I am happy being single because I know that I won't be forever. God has somebody handpicked out for me that I will get to marry someday. But until then, I am going to enjoy this time and not be miserable about being alone. I could spend everyday on Tinder searching for somebody to take me on dates, and I could easily message someone and flirt with them for hours. But I know that God will bring me somebody when it is His time, and I am trusting Him. I have made mistakes in past relationships, but I am healing and being restored to become the woman of God for my future husband. I do not want to waste my time on relationships that won't last or people that won't stick around forever. Once I am in a relationship again, God will be in the center, so both of us can grow closer to Him together.
Ultimately, I have found true love and fulfillment in Jesus Christ alone. I make sure to look for love from Him first before trying to find it from somebody who cannot promise me what He can. His love never changes and He will never leave me. I know that I can find joy by lifting my arms up to the One who has created a beautiful plan for my life.
How do you make the most out of being single? You just live. You can take risks and go on adventures. Spend time and money on yourself. Become the person you have always wanted to be. But you do not need someone to be happy. I can name many older adults that I have met that haven't found "the one." But they are some of the most joyful people that I know. You got this.
