Making Mistakes Is OKAY

Making Mistakes Is OKAY

FAILURE is a word I don't believe in. I don't think anyone in life ever FAILS

It's human nature, nobody is perfect. We are all created perfectly imperfect in the image of God and we were created to make mistakes and sin. But, we were also created to learn from our mistakes.

So often we make mistakes that are small, we may excuse them or ignore them because no one wants to admit they're wrong. But, sometimes, the mistakes we make can be detrimental to our current or future situations.

FAILURE is a word I don't believe in. I don't think anyone in life ever FAILS, I think we all make mistakes and mess up, I think we all have times we wish we could have done better, but that doesn't make it a failure.

When we make mistakes, we learn. When we learn, we become better; better people, better friends, better learners and better children.

Recently my brother began writing his essay for his college applications and his prompt was "Describe a failure you experienced..". Originally, he began writing his essay around that prompt; he wanted his essay to reflect the hardships his family went through while he was in high school (my life-threatening illness & my grandma battling cancer) and how it had effected his education. He wanted to demonstrate that he realized he couldn't control the health conditions of me or my grandma, but he could control how he did in school. The kid is tough, he has been through things most high schoolers never experience. He had to step up to the plate and hold down the fort while his family's health was deteriorating right in front of his eyes. He had to put on a brave face and act like he was doing ok so my parents wouldn't be more worried than they already were; like I said, he's tough.

When we sat down last weekend to talk through his essay brainstorming he told me the direction he wanted to go in with his essay. He read me the prompt he chose to go off of and how he was going to explain why he had "failed" in his performance in school. He then went on to say he wanted the college essay readers to understand all that he learned from the family situations he was in and he wanted to acknowledge the success he's had since taking back control of his education. He was a resilient kid in the face of adversity, and to me, that is far from a failure.

My brother isn't just tough, he's extremely smart as well. I mean the kid has so many amazing qualities about him that it would take up a whole other article. He has a great GPA and a great SAT/ACT score, plus he's a phenomenal golfer and an overall well-rounded kid. Does he wish his GPA could have been a little better while he was dealing with his family life crumbling around him, yeah of course he does, but the GPA he had then was NOT a failure!

I told him I loved the topic and direction he was taking his essay in, but that I hated the prompt. I had him change it to a different prompt in which he could address the same topic he had wanted all along.

It was so important for him to know that nothing he has ever done in his life was a FAILURE. That is such a negative word. I wanted him to acknowledge the fact that sure, he may have made some mistakes, but so has everyone else. I knew, as he continued writing his essay and editing it over a long period of time, he would start internalizing his high school education as a failure (I mean I would too) & NONE of his hard work in high school was EVER a failure!!

Nothing in life is a failure. Nothing you put your hard work and effort into is a failure. We all make mistakes, and that's what we are supposed to do. We were born with Original Sin, we were born flawed.

It is not the mistakes that we make, but what we learn from those mistakes that define us a person.

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An Open Letter To The Girl Trying To Get Healthy Again

"I see you eating whatever you want and not exercising" - Pants

Dear girl trying to get back in shape,

I know it's hard. I know the hardest thing you may do all day is walk into the gym. I know how easy it is to want to give up and go eat Chicken McNuggets, but don't do it. I know it feels like you work so hard and get no where. I know how frustrating it is to see that person across the table from you eat a Big Mac every day while you eat your carrots and still be half of your size. I know that awful feeling where you don't want to go to the gym because you know how out of shape you are. Trust me, I know.

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The important thing is you are doing something about it. I'm sure you get mad at yourself for letting your body get this out of shape, but life happens. You have made a huge accomplishment by not having a soda in over a month, and those small changes are huge. I understand how hard it is, I understand how frustrating it is to not see results and I understand why you want to give up. Being healthy and fit takes so much time. As much as I wish you could wake up the day after a good workout with the 6 pack of your dreams, that just isn't the reality. If being healthy was easy, everyone would do it, and it wouldn't feel so good when you got there.

Remember how last January your resolution was to get back in the gym and get healthy again? Think about how incredible you would look right now if you would have stuck with it. The great thing is that you can start any time, and you can prove yourself wrong.

Tired of starting over? Then don't give up.

You are only as strong as your mind. You will get there one day. Just be patient and keep working.

Nothing worth having comes easy. If you want abs more than anything, and one day you woke up with them, it wouldn't be nearly as satisfying as watching your body get stronger.

Mental toughness is half the battle. If you think you are strong, and believe you are strong, you will be strong. Soon, when you look back on the struggle and these hard days, you will be so thankful you didn't give up.

Don't forget that weight is just a number. What is really important is how you feel, and that you like how you look. But girl, shout out to you for working on loving your body, because that shit is hard.

To the girl trying to get healthy again, I am so proud of you. It won't be easy, it will take time. But keep working out, eating right, and just be patient. You will be amazed with what your body is capable of doing.

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I Weigh Over 200 Lbs And Damn Right You'll Catch Me In A Bikini This Summer

There is no magic number that determines who can wear a bikini and who cannot.

It is about February every year when I realize that bikini season is approaching. I know a lot of people who feel this way, too. In pursuit of the perfect "summer body," more meals are prepped and more time is spent in the gym. Obviously, making healthier choices is a good thing! But here is a reminder that you do not have to have a flat stomach and abs to rock a bikini.

Since my first semester of college, I've weighed over 200 pounds. Sometimes way more, sometimes only a few pounds more, but I have not seen a weight starting with the number "1" since the beginning of my freshman year of college.

My weight has fluctuated, my health has fluctuated, and unfortunately, my confidence has fluctuated. But no matter what, I haven't allowed myself to give up wearing the things I want to wear to please the eyes of society. And you shouldn't, either.

I weigh over 200lbs in both of these photos. To me, (and probably to you), one photo looks better than the other one. But what remains the same is, regardless, I still chose to wear the bathing suit that made me feel beautiful, and I'm still smiling in both photos. Nobody has the right to tell you what you can and can't wear because of the way you look.

There is no magic number that equates to health. In the second photo (and the cover photo), I still weigh over 200 lbs. But I hit the gym daily, ate all around healthier and noticed differences not only on the scale but in my mood, my heart health, my skin and so many other areas. You are not unhealthy because you weigh over 200 lbs and you are not healthy because you weigh 125. And, you are not confined to certain clothing items because of it, either.

This summer, after gaining quite a bit of weight back during the second semester of my senior year, I look somewhere between those two photos. I am disappointed in myself, but ultimately still love my body and I'm proud of the motivation I have to get to where I want to be while having the confidence to still love myself where I am.

And if you think just because I look a little chubby that I won't be rocking a bikini this summer, you're out of your mind.

If YOU feel confident, and if YOU feel beautiful, don't mind what anybody else says. Rock that bikini and feel amazing doing it.

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