Distance Means Nothing When They Mean Everything

Distance Means Nothing When They Mean Everything

It may be hard, but miles won't phase the right relationship.
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Long-distance relationships tend to have a bad rep.

Personally, I think it's because people are lazy nowadays and don't want to put forth the extra effort required in a long-distance relationship. Long-distance takes sacrifice, something a lot of people are not willing to do. It's nothing new that relationships are not valued as much these days. Most people are quick to put their needs before anyone else's, which is just not how a relationship is supposed to be.

I'll be honest. I never thought I would be able to handle long-distance. I guess you could say I am a bit needy. I like to see that person, talk to them, be around them, so I never thought texting, calls, or occasional visits would be enough.

But I was wrong.

It's not that these things are enough, it's just that when you find the right person, you are willing to take what you can get.

It's worth it for the right person. So no, I probably wouldn't be able to do long-distance if it wasn't the right person.

Distance is a true test of a relationship's strength. Most likely if a couple can make it through long-distance, they have a good chance at surviving other relationship problems.

Distance teaches you to be thankful, humble, and patient. You become more thankful for the moments that you do get with that person. You become more humble because you realize that this is not only hard for you, but also hard for them, so you think of their feelings more. You become patient because that is what distance makes you.

The old saying is, "distance makes the heart grow fonder," and I fully believe in this.

Each moment in your relationship means more because you share fewer moments.

Space is also a very important concept in distance. Even the most compatible people can't be around each other 24/7 without getting on each other's nerves. Distance eliminates the silly arguments that stem from being around each other too much. When you finally get to see that person, you will be so happy that these petty fights don't occur, or shouldn't at least.

Appreciation. This is also a valuable lesson that distance teaches us. When you're around someone all the time, you tend to overlook the small things. The way your girlfriend always kept your house clean without asking, or maybe the way your boyfriend cooked you dinner for no special reason. You begin to expect these things, which makes you not appreciate them. Distance makes you realize what you have.

So yes, distance is hard. It definitely puts a strain on a relationship. However, if it's for the right person, distance means nothing. When that person means everything to you, distance is just another part of what you have to deal with in life.

You adapt and make the most of every minute you have with that person, because when it is right, nothing as petty as a few miles can stop it.

Cover Image Credit: Sydney Moore

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Sorry Not Sorry, My Parents Paid For My Coachella Trip

No haters are going to bring me down.
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With Coachella officially over, lives can go back to normal and we can all relive Beyonce’s performance online for years to come. Or, if you were like me and actually there, you can replay the experience in your mind for the rest of your life, holding dear to the memories of an epic weekend and a cultural experience like no other on the planet.

And I want to be clear about the Beyonce show: it really was that good.

But with any big event beloved by many, there will always be the haters on the other side. The #nochella’s, the haters of all things ‘Chella fashion. And let me just say this, the flower headbands aren’t cultural appropriation, they’re simply items of clothing used to express the stylistic tendency of a fashion-forward event.

Because yes, the music, and sure, the art, but so much of what Coachella is, really, is about the fashion and what you and your friends are wearing. It's supposed to be fun, not political! Anyway, back to the main point of this.

One of the biggest things people love to hate on about Coachella is the fact that many of the attendees have their tickets bought for them by their parents.

Sorry? It’s not my fault that my parents have enough money to buy their daughter and her friends the gift of going to one of the most amazing melting pots of all things weird and beautiful. It’s not my fault about your life, and it’s none of your business about mine.

All my life, I’ve dealt with people commenting on me, mostly liking, but there are always a few that seem upset about the way I live my life.

One time, I was riding my dolphin out in Turks and Cacaos, (“riding” is the act of holding onto their fin as they swim and you sort of glide next to them. It’s a beautiful, transformative experience between human and animal and I really think, when I looked in my dolphin’s eye, that we made a connection that will last forever) and someone I knew threw shade my way for getting to do it.

Don’t make me be the bad guy.

I felt shame for years after my 16th birthday, where my parents got me an Escalade. People at school made fun of me (especially after I drove into a ditch...oops!) and said I didn’t deserve the things I got in life.

I can think of a lot of people who probably don't deserve the things in life that they get, but you don't hear me hating on them (that's why we vote, people). Well, I’m sick of being made to feel guilty about the luxuries I’m given, because they’ve made me who I am, and I love me.

I’m a good person.

I’m not going to let the Coachella haters bring me down anymore. Did my parents buy my ticket and VIP housing? Yes. Am I sorry about that? Absolutely not.

Sorry, not sorry!

Cover Image Credit: Kaycie Allen

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Snail Mail: Sending Your Love In An Envelope

Didn't that make you feel like the coolest kid ever?
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I'm not going to lie, you guys, I'm addicted to stationery. Call me crazy, but writing letters is my hardcore drug. I know a lot of people that have stationary but keep it to make it look like they write letters or just because they are too cute to use.

I totally understand the want to keep those cute cards, but I love writing on them so much more. A lot of people ask me why I'm like this. After all, a Facebook or text message is so much easier, right? Sure, it can be easier, but I can't help but think that letters make things so much more personal.

I started writing letters in the Fall Semester of 2015. I was going through some hard times, but one thing I learned early on was that writing letters back home made me feel closer to my family. It was my time to unwind and to tell my story on a personal level to my loved ones. Every word I wrote had a little of me in it. My good times and bad were contained in those letters, and it made me feel a little more at ease. Taking that little bit of time to write was a beautiful thing.

When I had to withdraw from that university, I continued to write letters. I wrote to the friends I had made at college and even those that were just down the street. I would get pictures developed and slide them into the envelope, too (People don't print pictures much anymore, either).

It was a cost-effective and therapeutic way to show people I cared, and trust me, I care a lot. I even toyed around with the idea of sending inspiration letters to random addresses just to make someone's day a little brighter.

Now the motives of my letters are a little different. My boyfriend and I met at that same university I had to withdraw from. However, when he graduated almost a year ago, he moved back home... To Camillus, New York. It's been difficult being so far away from each other, but writing letters makes us feel so much closer.

We send each other packages or letters of some sort at least once a month, and it makes me feel so happy to see his handwriting. I don't know what it is... Maybe it's that I know he takes time to write to me or that he sprays just a little bit of cologne on each letter... But letters are just magical.

So, you might not be completely sold on the letter writing thing because it is a little more time-consuming. Yes, it is, but think about it... As a little kid, you got stoked when you got something in the mail. Your parents got all sorts of stuff all the time (That we didn't realize were just a bunch of bills), but every once in a while there would be something for you.

Didn't that make you feel like the coolest kid ever? Well, here's the thing... We still haven't grown out of that. The only change now is that we are the ones that get bills in the mail... But when do we ever get a handwritten letter? And when we do, isn't it just a great surprise? Imagine being that surprise for someone, even if it's just once a month. Who knows, maybe then they'll surprise you back.

Wander on,

Ranger Babe

Cover Image Credit: Addison Sepulveda-Nichols

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