Distance Means Nothing When They Mean Everything

Distance Means Nothing When They Mean Everything

It may be hard, but miles won't phase the right relationship.
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Long-distance relationships tend to have a bad rep.

Personally, I think it's because people are lazy nowadays and don't want to put forth the extra effort required in a long-distance relationship. Long-distance takes sacrifice, something a lot of people are not willing to do. It's nothing new that relationships are not valued as much these days. Most people are quick to put their needs before anyone else's, which is just not how a relationship is supposed to be.

I'll be honest. I never thought I would be able to handle long-distance. I guess you could say I am a bit needy. I like to see that person, talk to them, be around them, so I never thought texting, calls, or occasional visits would be enough.

But I was wrong.

It's not that these things are enough, it's just that when you find the right person, you are willing to take what you can get.

It's worth it for the right person. So no, I probably wouldn't be able to do long-distance if it wasn't the right person.

Distance is a true test of a relationship's strength. Most likely if a couple can make it through long-distance, they have a good chance at surviving other relationship problems.

Distance teaches you to be thankful, humble, and patient. You become more thankful for the moments that you do get with that person. You become more humble because you realize that this is not only hard for you, but also hard for them, so you think of their feelings more. You become patient because that is what distance makes you.

The old saying is, "distance makes the heart grow fonder," and I fully believe in this.

Each moment in your relationship means more because you share fewer moments.

Space is also a very important concept in distance. Even the most compatible people can't be around each other 24/7 without getting on each other's nerves. Distance eliminates the silly arguments that stem from being around each other too much. When you finally get to see that person, you will be so happy that these petty fights don't occur, or shouldn't at least.

Appreciation. This is also a valuable lesson that distance teaches us. When you're around someone all the time, you tend to overlook the small things. The way your girlfriend always kept your house clean without asking, or maybe the way your boyfriend cooked you dinner for no special reason. You begin to expect these things, which makes you not appreciate them. Distance makes you realize what you have.

So yes, distance is hard. It definitely puts a strain on a relationship. However, if it's for the right person, distance means nothing. When that person means everything to you, distance is just another part of what you have to deal with in life.

You adapt and make the most of every minute you have with that person, because when it is right, nothing as petty as a few miles can stop it.

Cover Image Credit: Sydney Moore

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6 Important Must Knows For Dating Sassy And Sarcastic Girls

Brace yourselves boys, she's a tough one.
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Dating a girl with a big personality can be tricky. They are some of the most amazing girls but to keep them, one needs to understand them. Here are six important things you must be aware of before you give your heart to a sassy and sarcastic girl.

1. Stubborn

She is going to be the most stubborn creature you will ever meet. I say "creature" because she might actually scare you with how much she refuses to back down until you have full proof she is wrong. And if you can’t prove her wrong, just suck up your pride and let her be right or she’ll never quit. But just remember that she’s simply passionate about whatever it is and you should be proud of her for that.

2. Bluntness

She is going to be blunt. So be prepared to hear the truth. She isn’t going to care how mad you get, if you’re being rude, she won’t be afraid to put you in your place. If your choice of clothing isn’t matching, she’ll tell you. Whatever it is, she isn’t going to keep the truth from you. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes she’s just a little too straightforward.

3. Sensitivity

Be careful sometimes with your choice of words. Though she is blunt, she is also sensitive. Her sarcastic personality is sometimes just a defense mechanism because she fears opening up. She worries a lot and continues to ponder the things you say. Remind her she is loved.

4. Friends

She is going to have a lot more guy friends than she will have girl friends. Why? Because guys tend to find more humor in her sarcasm and don’t take it so personal, whereas other girls take it as she’s being serious and just rude. However, don’t be jealous because trust me, you’re 100 percent hers and those guy friends are just that — friends.

5. Insults

She’s not going to flirt with you by giggling and blushing and calling you cute. She’s going to call you an idiot and smack you across the shoulder or back because to her, that’s easier than being all giddy and speechless over how much she likes you. And even when she’s calling you names, which really is in all fun and games, she doesn’t mean it seriously, she’s actually just saying “I love you” in her own special language.

6. Shorty

If she’s short in addition to being sassy and sarcastic, you’re in for a big treat with her. She is not only going to be full of fast wit, but she is going to have so much spunk in her you won’t know what to do. She will be so feisty that she won’t be afraid of anything or anyone and you yourself won’t even know how to handle her. That’s what makes her special.

It takes a certain type of person to be able to give their heart to someone who can so easily break it with their strong headed personality. But a sarcastic and sassy girl is going to be the one girl who is going to love you with all that she has. Treat her right, and she’ll treat you right.

Cover Image Credit: Larisa Birta

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Don't Feel Bad For Me When I Say I'm In A Long-Distance Relationship

There's no need for anyone to say, "oh, that sucks" or "that's annoying" or "I don't know how you do it" because I really do love my relationship.

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When I first went out with my boyfriend, I wasn't expecting anything to come from it. He was in the Marines, stationed in South Carolina, and it was just a stupid Tinder date because I was bored and I thought he was funny and cute over Snapchat. Not only did he live an eight-hour drive away, but he was also heading out of the country for Christmas. I never thought I would ever hear from him again after I got into my car and drove back home.

But, I did, and a year and a half later, going on that coffee date was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

Right from the start, I knew if he and I were going to date, we would have to face a long-distance relationship for roughly two to three years- whether I finished school first or he got out of the military was up to fate. For us, being apart is normal. We're so used to talking through FaceTime rather than face to face and not seeing each other for weeks on end is more familiar than hugging. We've probably blown more kisses through the phone than having had real kisses.

Would I love to be just a minutes drive away from him?

Absolutely.

Would I trade my relationship for anything else?

Never.

There's no reason for you to feel bad for me when I tell you I'm in a long distance relationship.

There's no need for anyone to say, "oh, that sucks' or "that's annoying" or "I don't know how you do it" because I really do love my relationship.

Being away from each other is just something we do. It lets us be independent, focus on work and school, but still allows us to support each other. Sure, long-distance relationships aren't for everyone, but couples make them work. No relationship is normal and like every other relationship, it takes patience, learning, and commitment. The only difference between a 'normal' relationship and a long-distance relationship is is that our 'date nights' consist of eating dinner together over FaceTime instead.

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