Love is everywhere, it's written in books, played on TV. It's in the hearts of everyone, children, parents, adults, teens, dogs, God. It's something we see everyday and we can't avoid it. It's something that young women strive to have and have dreamed about since they were little. It's related to emotions and words of happiness and success. It's something that everyone wants and everyone deserves. No matter what you have done or who you are, you deserve love.
There is no one way to find love, love is expressed in many different ways. There isn't just one way to love, it could be in relationships to your partner, parent, friendship, religious beliefs, and even pets. The internet tries to define love as something that is in the souls of a person or there are certain things that a man does or certain things a woman does, and honestly that could be true for some but it's a bunch of bullshit for the rest of us.
We compare our love to the love we see on TV or on social media and expect that from the love we receive, when in reality we are too interested on finding that love, when we could be making our own rules on love. Yeah it could be nice to receive flowers or little gestures from our partner, but honestly I would much rather create a love that is for me and my love. Not something I compare to another person's. The person we love is not going to do the same things or be the same as a person who has their own love with someone else.
An example of this is the famous love between Thomas Rhett and his wife Lauren. Don't get me wrong, I love both of them, and believe Thomas does a great job of showing his love for Lauren, but that doesn't mean I expect the same love from my boyfriend towards me. Thomas is well known for how he writes songs about his love towards Lauren and it works for them. But that doesn't mean it's going to work for myself and my boyfriend. My boyfriend has many great qualities and he shows me his love, but not in writing songs for me. Someone else's strengths won't work for my relationship. Find the strengths of your relationship and create a love that is based off of that.
My definition of love is able to walk into Bings Diner for breakfast and knowing his order is the number five and that he wants dippy eggs, wheat toast, bacon, and shredded home fries instead of cubed. He wants a water and a large chocolate milk. Our love is based on the occasional fights about where we want to eat. Him picking me flowers after we come back from him beating me in a game of golf like he has for the last three years that we have been dating. It's kayaking on the river, silly string fights, playing with Legos, and putting puzzles together with each other. It's spending Thanksgiving at his aunt's house and Christmas at his parents. It's us making fun of each other for the amount of food the both of us can consume in one sitting. Our love might not make the cut for a romantic novel or a hallmark channel movie, but it's our love.
There is no one else with our type of love and that's something special. Don't spend too much time on comparing what you have or don't have, and start paying attention to all the wonderful things your love can give you.
Love isn't a tricky thing, and it's not difficult. Let love do its thing and just sit back and enjoy the ride.
