I just recently truly began evaluating who I am and how I view myself and I think this is something every young women needs to take a second and do. How we look at ourselves speaks volumes towards how we act and how we approach the various situations we face on a daily basis. Women are extravagant people and the fact that most of us do not walk around overflowing with a healthy amount of confidence makes me sad. This may sound feminist, but the world needs women, every single one of us plays a vital role in the lives of the people that surround us.
People commonly associate with either being an introvert or an extrovert, neither one besting the other. Commonly quiet, very thoughtful and easily finding comfort within themselves, this is how I define an introvert. Whether you are red, yellow, black or white we all express ourselves in a number of ways and volumes. I used to hate being an introvert, who wanted to go to a social gathering with someone who sits quietly while the people around them are confident and expressive. But as I grew older I realized there is a certain beauty that comes with either being very expressive or being reserved.
Like many girls before me I have struggled with the idea of loving the women I am physically and mentally. I have battled with disorders and come face to face with depression and still stand in front of the mirror and distastefully look upon what I see in the mirror. There’s no amount of counseling or mental exercises that can get me to love me for who I am. Loving yourself comes from within and from the creator that made the body I call home. I think accepting me for who I am comes with time and living for myself instead of for the acceptance of those around me is something many of us grow into with time.
Every women has their quirks and the list of things they would love to change about themselves but the reality is we were given this body and it is our responsibility to love and cherish it. One of my favorite expressions is, “focus on the problem and the problem will get bigger, focus on the solution and the solution will get bigger”. Instead of zeroing in on everything thing you think is wrong with you celebrate who you are becoming with each passing day. Realize that you were made perfectly and no earthly matter could dampen that. Don’t skip lunch, do not talk to the guy that treats you like dirt, do not be ashamed of the number on the tag in your jeans and do what makes you happy and things will begin to fall into place. Love yourself, never stop loving yourself.
