It seems like everything is going perfect. Things couldn't be any better, but she starts leaving one-word texts, falling asleep more and more, she's... distant. It's not you, it's me, maybe it is you, or maybe it's just me. If women aren't already hard enough as is, dating a girl with mental illness takes a little bit more. It's not necessarily a bad thing or even a good thing, but it requires that little extra mile. The key to having a healthier, happier relationship is always communication and understanding your significant other.
When you begin a potential relationship the first thing everyone asks is, what's your family like, what are you into, you know, try to get to know the person. Most people who suffer from mental illness are embarrassed of it, think people won't be interested as much because of it or make you not want to talk to them. The sad truth is, most people don't want to deal with the extra baggage and imperfections when it's so easy to hook up in our generation. You have to welcome the insecurities and imperfections just as much as the positive aspects of that person because those flaws still make up the wonderful person you are. It's time to embrace not just the positive qualities of yourself but also the negative ones because they all make you the person people love.
It is the beginning that feels just like the end of the relationship.
It's sometimes harder letting in than letting go. When you already struggle with confidence in yourself, it's harder trying to give that to another person. It's the constant thought of, he will probably find someone better. Not because of the distrust in that person, but the lack of self-confidence in her. She takes everything personal because she's still wondering how she got your attention in the first place. So don't fret, she's just nervous and it's worth the wait.
Emotional girls are the best kinds of girls.
Because they care. Emotional girls are just the ones who are the most caring, light hearted individuals who have doubt in themselves and need the right person to help bring out the best in them. I know that sounds demanding, but it just takes someone patient who is willing to be a positive contributor in their life. Emotional girls know what it's like to feel sad all the time, so the second you are hurting they are right there. It's our special talent, knowing how to make people feel better is our specialty because we spend so much time feeling sad ourselves.
Food isn't a problem.
Depressive disorders cause excessive hunger which for picky eaters could complicate things but for the most part, it is a blessing, at least in my opinion. Men seem to have this never-ending cycle of eating which for women can be a pain in the a*s. But we can go literally from breakfast to class, to snack to lunch, to snack, third snack, you get the idea. Most girls you'll meet won't compare and try to be petite and not eat around you but we are the real deal.
Despite the many setbacks of mental disorders, they are only setbacks if you make it that way. When it comes to confidence in yourself, have the same for any problem you may face in life. It is said you are what you make of it, which is true for not only her but for you. If you think she is a problem, that is on you. Every wilted flower can become beautiful with the right amount of water and sunlight. She has potential, the heart, and it isn't your job to change her but to love her for her flaws. There's nothing wrong with having more flaws, it just means there more to love.
