I want you to know that it's not easy, but don't give up on her, there's so much more to her than her anxiety.

She's going to hold back. She's going to hold back her silly self, her crazy self, her emotional self, and anything that she feels like might turn you away. She's afraid that you might lose interest in her or find her annoying. She's afraid that you won't accept her if she unveils her true self, so she hides it behind a "safe" personality. She's also going to tell you everything is fine if you ask if she's okay. She doesn't want to feel like she's bothering you with her silly thoughts. Sometimes she doesn't even know how to explain her thoughts. She wants to talk to you, but she doesn't always know how. Don't push her, let her open up to you when she wants to (and feels like she can).

She has a wall built up. Who knows how long that wall has been in the making, but you should know it IS possible to break it down. It's going to take work. You're going to have to gain her trust and that's going to take time. She put that wall up to protect her heart from getting hurt. She thinks that if she breaks down that wall she is going to have her heart broken, so you need to show her that you are here to stay and you will work to break down that wall.

She is going to overthink EVERYTHING. I mean everything. She is going to make up scenarios in her head that seem crazy to you, but she has convinced herself that the worst possible outcome is going to happen. You can talk her through these mind games, but don't tell her she's being irrational and to stop overthinking. It's not that easy for her. And PLEASE don't ever tell her she's overreacting. That's going to make her think that you're tired of dealing with her overthinking...and she will then overthink that too (see, endless cycle)

She might try to push you away. This goes back to the wall she has built up. She thinks you're better off without her. She thinks she is too hard to love. She's going to push you away before you have the chance to leave yourself. So she might push, but push back. Show her that she's not too much for you. Show her that she's worth it. Show her you want all of her...the good, the bad, and the ugly.

She will need reassurance...and a lot of it. I know you just told her that you love her, but tell her again. Tell her you're never going to leave her. Tell her everything is going to be okay. It's not going to magically heal her anxiety, but it will calm her for the moment. All she really wants is to know that she's not too much for you and that you love her, every part of her. Make sure she knows how much you mean to her. Trust me, the little reassurances mean more to her than you will ever know.

But most of all, despite all of this, she has some of the strongest feelings imaginable. Which means that when she falls in love with you, she is going to love you with her entire heart. Her capacity to love you is almost going to be overwhelming. She's going to love you more fiercely than you've ever known and in ways you never thought possible. She will change your world. She's going to care for you and be faithful to you, so do the same for her. Love her as fiercely as she loves you and I promise you won't regret it, this kind of love is so worth it.