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To The Emotionally Unavailable Men in 2018, Take Notes From The Men In 'Love Letters Of Great Men, Volume 1' In 2019

"I will cover you with love when I next see you, with caresses, with ecstasy. I want you to be amazed by me and to confess to yourself that you had never even dreamed of such transports...When you are old, I want you to recall those few hours, I want your dry bones to quiver with joy when you think of them."

-Gustave Flaubert, 1846

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To The Emotionally Unavailable Men in 2018, Take Notes From The Men In 'Love Letters Of Great Men, Volume 1' In 2019
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To the men reading this, I am going to start off by saying that you do not have to write love letters to the girl you admire across campus in the same format Beethoven or Flaubert did. I am not telling you that you have to confess your love for someone over a letter, though in my unpopular opinion, it is a little more romantic than confessing your feelings via Snapchat or Tinder. To the men reading this who lack the ability to express how they feel, lack the ability to show how they feel, or just lack the ability to be emotionally available in 2018, AKA, to all the men I've encountered in the year of 2018, this one for you.

It has been brought to my attention that there is a common denominator, or at least in 2018 there has been, that you lack commitment. You lack the ability to fully devote yourself to another human being. You lack the ability to stay focused on what's right in front of you. Now, there is no magic switch that I can flip to make you suddenly want to commit, be devoted, or be faithful. I wish there was, but only you have control of this switch-I don't. But, if you take notes from the men in the book linked at the end of this article, you can be sure to flip your own internal switch to do whatever you need it to do.

Most of the men in 'Love Letters Of Great Men' are in a situation ranging from the 1700s-1900s where the woman they love has been taken from them in one way or another. Either the woman's parents are involved and forbid their daughters to see these "great men" or death took the innocent life of one's sweetheart. Regardless of how the women were revoked from their beloved's lives, one thing remains - these men didn't realize the great love that they had for these women existed until they were gone.

You see, I take this to heart, ladies. After recently being played and toyed with for the last year and a half by a guy whom I thought I was madly in love with, I realized that ~some~ men can never be satisfied. Some men can never know the worth of something until it's gone. Though this is a painful lesson to learn, it is the most important. It is important because it shows that ~hopefully~ when you lose someone who you thought was your life and reason for breathing, there is someone else coming down the line who has already experienced this heartache, and he won't treat you as though you are plastic when you are glass. You see, he will see that love is fragile and the importance of it when it is around and he won't be so quick to ignore his feelings.

Back to the men, now. You can't be like the men in 'Love Letters of Great Men' because if you are, you will find the woman of your dreams and you will lose her. Your careless acts and loveless heart will break the glass that is her love to you. How easy is it to fix broken glass? It's not. Therefore, how easy is it to fix a broken love? And once your woman sees that some other man who is more careful with her love, she won't go back to you. So men, take notes from Michael London, Beethoven, and F. Scott Fitzgerald. Don't be reckless, but be careful. Treat the love you share as though it is a ticking time bomb and can ruin your life in seconds if it is mishandled. Don't wait until your lover is out of reach to confess how you feel. Say what you mean and mean what you say because life is short and love is rare.

Be calm- love me- today- yesterday- what tearful longings for you- you- you- my life- my all- farewell. Oh continune to love me- never misjudge the most faithful heart of your beloved.

Ever thine

Ever mine

Ever ours

-Ludwig van Beethoven

July 7, 1806

You can snag a copy of this book here - https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1440496021/ref=ox_sc_mini_detail?ie=UTF8&psc=1&smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER


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