Love's A Complicated One

Love's A Complicated One

Love is something we all struggle with from time to time, but you can't give up on it.

Lately, I've been struggling with something I'm sure everyone else has before or eventually will. I keep beating myself up over it, asking the same question over and over again: What the heck is love?

I don't know exactly why I keep asking myself this question, but I'm hoping that it'll come to me from writing this. I think ever since Lent began, this question has really been taunting me. Fortunately, I had a solid 14-hour car ride from my house to New Orleans, so I had a looong talk with my philosophic self which started leading to some conclusions (at least for myself). On that note, buckle your seatbelt and enjoy the ride on my train of thought (which is usually quite scattered, so sorry 'bout that...)!

From a Catholic standpoint, I wholeheartedly believe that God is love, but then I kept asking myself why I never felt like this was enough for me. Sure, I knew that his love was present in heaven for me, but what about on earth? Where the heck was it on earth? Let me tell you, I searched everywhere for God's love on earth. Everywhere. I could never find it. And I think this just made me shut myself down and close my eyes to the possibility of it being on earth.

Granted, I know my family loves me and hopefully, my friends do, but I just kept thinking to myself "Why haven't I been in a relationship?" And let me tell you, this question beat me down for years. But then, while driving through Alabama, it really hit me.

I haven't been in a relationship because I haven't been willing to give that kind of love to someone else, mainly because I didn't think it was earthly possible. However, it is because of Jesus dying all those years ago on that cross.

That blood he bled was so we could love people on this earth the way God wanted us to: in his image. That blood allows us to love selflessly and sacrificially, with the main goal being to get our partner to heaven.

Honestly, I think this is the most beautiful thing in the universe.

I think you know what love is when you experience total kindness; or when you will give every ounce of strength you have emotionally, mentally, and physically to someone else. In order to do this, though, you have to put yourself out there and love people with everything you have.

I like to think of it like a lighthouse: if your light isn't shining, then ships aren't going to make it to you, or they will have struggled greatly to and will be too weak.

So as hard as it is sometimes, keep your light on. Keep radiating that selfless and sacrificial love, and someday someone will do the same for you.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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5 Facts About Spiritual Gifts That You Need To Know

Different gifts, but from the same Spirit


1 Corinthians 12:4-5 states; "[4] There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. [5] There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord." We see that there are multiple spiritual gifts, but they all come from the same Lord.

1. We all have different gifts and that's okay

Just like a body has different parts that each has its own function, that's like the body of Christ. We all have different gifts and different purposes, but we're all part of the body of Christ. God has a plan for you and has given you certain gifts. God doesn't call the equipped, he equips the calling.

2. There are various spiritual gifts mentioned in the Bible

Romans 12, 1 Corinthians 12, and Ephesians 4 are some of the bible passages that talk about spiritual gifts. Giving, leadership, mercy, prophecy, service, tongue interpretation, administration, discernment, hospitality, missionary, and evangelism are some of the spiritual gifts that people can have. We can desire any gift, but it's God's choice on what gifts He gives us.

Remember, everyone can receive speaking in tongues via baptism in the Holy Spirit, but not everyone will get the gift of tongue interpretation.

3. Spiritual Gifts are supernatural abilities that are either given or enhanced via the Holy Spirit

God gave us these Spiritual gifts because God wants to invest in His church.

4. Spiritual gifts are for strengthening others

We have spiritual gifts in order to help others.

5. It does take time for gifts to mature and develop

Like with a skill that you have, it does take time for you to own said skill. You put in the work, and because of that, you grow in your skill, and you get better. That's the same way with your gifts. God gives each of us certain gifts to use, and it will take time to mature those gifts.

Spiritual gifts are important.

In Romans 12:6 states; "[6] We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; [7] if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; [8] if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully."

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