The Loveliness Of Being Alone

The Loveliness Of Being Alone

A little solitude never killed nobody.


Many people consider solitude as a punishment, a cruel sanction we never know why we got. Being alone means that it's just you and yourself, nobody else. Nobody can hear you; only yourself. Nobody can see how you look, feel how you feel. It's just your soul against the rest of the world.

However, I have learned that sometimes you just need moments to get away from everything. A little bit of solitude actually helps the human psyche. A little bit of solitude fortifies the being who fears solitude as long as they embrace it.

It is when I am alone that I feel like I can breathe without living to the expectations of others.

It is when I'm alone that I am able to file each thought that runs through my mind and give it the time I know it deserves.

Being alone shouldn't always be considered as a punishment, a form to distance yourself because you can't stand being around people.

We live in a world where "connection" is a thing we crave twenty-four seven. We live in a world were connection and sympathy are things we feed off, a form of sustenance that can become toxic for one in the future. Balancing connection and solitude in one's life is something that we should all start practicing.

I'm well aware that when one is alone, the entire weight of the world falls upon one. I'm well aware that one's ugliest thoughts might surface like a white shark coming for its fresh meal. It can be frightening, I know. Somehow, I've come to appreciate myself a little more.

Somehow, I've come to learn that I can be the best company I can offer myself because nobody knows me the way I know myself. Sometimes I may wonder who I may be, but at least I know what I like, what I can do, and where my limit stands on certain things. I have tried to learn every inch of my mind and body and soul, and I've slowly started to accept myself as a friend, instead of a foe.

I don't know what may go through many of people's minds, and I rarely do know what goes in my head, but I manage. I pluck out a plastic ball with a metallic claw and read what's inside, and I try to deal with it. I take my thoughts slowly, remembering that I am both weak and strong, that I could be overwhelmed and drowned or stand victorious. I acknowledge both outcomes, and I push.

This is why I recommend you to treat yourself kindly. You are your best companion, your best friend. There will be moments when solitude won't be an optional thing. At one point, maybe nobody will be around on the desert of your mind. There will be nobody to turn to and at that moment, you will only have yourself to rely on.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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'Taste The Rainbow' But Not Because Skittles Said To

The health benefits of eating a wide range of fruits and vegetables


Does everyone know that fruits and vegetables are good for you, but do you know why they are considered to be nutritious?

Some may believe the answer is because they have low caloric value, which isn't wrong but they provide so much more. They possess phytochemicals.

Phytochemicals are naturally occurring compounds found in plant foods that provide the fruit and vegetables their color, taste, and odor. More than that, each phytochemical comes with its health benefits.

There are seven mechanisms of action or ways that phytochemicals are beneficial to our health.

They can either act as antioxidants which help to prevent damage to healthy cells, anti-inflammatory, chemo-preventative, support our immune system, trigger apoptosis or programmed cell death, protect our DNA, regulate hormones and finally, some may have the ability for specific actions, such as inhibiting the growth of bad bacteria.

Below is a list of phytochemicals:

1. Carotene 

Alpha and beta carotene give fruits and vegetables an orange or yellow color. Some examples of foods that are high in beta carotene are sweet potatoes, carrots, and bell peppers of those colors.

Carotene, when ingested, is converted into Vitamin A that your body can easily absorb and utilize. Carotene has been scientifically proven to help eye and heart health as well as support our immune system by acting as an antioxidant, anti-inflammatory and possessing chemo-preventive factors.

2. Lycopene 

Think tomatoes. The phytochemical lycopene is responsible for the red color in whole plant foods. The health effects are acting as antioxidants, anti-inflammatory, chemo-preventative but also good for DNA and urinary tract health. What's cool about lycopene is that no matter how you prepare your food, you don't lose any of the nutrients.

3. Chlorophyll 

Eat your greens. Chlorophyll-rich foods appear green. Some excellent sources include dark leafy greens and broccoli. Chlorophyll, like the other phytochemicals are known to be antioxidants, anti-inflammatory and chemo-preventative. Choosing foods that have a rich and vibrant color indicate that is a good source of that phytochemical.

So, next time you're in the produce aisle, be sure to choose your colors wisely.

4. Anthocyanin

Anthocyanins are those foods that are red, blue and purple. Any type of berry is an excellent source of antioxidants. Antioxidants combat damage to cells by helping balance those that are unstable. Cells become unsteady when they have an uneven pairing of protons and electrons so antioxidants essentially give an electron to the cells that need it.

5. Reservatrol

The color purple. Just as every phytochemical mentioned, resveratrol contains antioxidants, anti-inflammatory and chemo-preventative agents. That's the beauty of phytochemicals. Reservartrol also takes it a step further to help brain and bone health. Studies have proven that eating foods rich in resevatrol also help to protect against age-related diseases.

If you want to learn more about the health benefits of phytochemicals, please check out this wonderful book!

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