What does it mean to lose someone so close to you? How is it that those moments that you spent with each other are all that you will now ever have? Why is our life measured by time and not by how many hearts you touched? So many questions related to demise. Yet none of them have answers. When I was little, I heard this quote. "How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard." Since that day I have spent days wondering whether the pain of letting go of someone is really lucky or actually a punishment. But over the years I have found my answer and I want to share it with you.
We all come into this world with nothing. A handful of emotions, a bucket of relationships and a sea of moments. These are all the things that one day we have to say goodbye to. It is not a matter of what we begin with in life but what we do while we are here. As the pain surges through your tears, think about how that one person impacted you. They did not need to make those memories with you. But out of the 7 billion people that reside on this earth, they chose to live their limited moments with you. Everyday you may have loved, fought or even just sat there staring at each other but they were a part of you and you were a part of their story. So yes you are lucky not because they are gone and it is hard to say goodbye but because they loved you so much that they gave the precious moments that they had to you.
I recently lost my uncle to cancer this past Sunday. I had just seen him and came back from Canada and not a day later when I heard the news. I was devastated. See I do not show it much but I can be really sentimental when it comes to certain things. Nevertheless I consider myself so lucky that I had such an amazing person in my life. He who I drove crazy with my film fanatics and spent hours discussing my future dreams. Last words, they mean a lot. They leave with you what can drive you to be who you are and also give you some solace. His last words to me were," Make a career for yourself, Live your dreams and always Smile through." I will never forget these words.
Life is strange. You meet people and wait for them to leave or to be snatched from you. But believe that they are always watching you from up above and love you still as much as they loved you while they were here. Losing a loved one is hard. But they live on in your memories. Let them get peace by letting them go and allowing them to live in your heart. What troubles them the most is to see the person they cared about the most still so hurt.
No matter where they go, they shall reside in your heart. Place your hand upon your heart and let them know that they will always be loved. You will soon feel their hand upon your heavy emotions letting you know that they love you to.
( In Loving Memory of my dearest uncle Navnit Patel)
