I know what it’s like to want to be loved, remembered or even acknowledged. Invisible is not just the absence of sight, but the absence of yourself. It’s walking into a crowd and feeling voiceless; it’s the ability to go completely unnoticed in front of the person who means the most to you. At times, it takes looking at yourself, not for the woman you are but the woman you want to be. Being faithful to him doesn’t mean you aren’t cheating yourself. I know what it’s like and I’m saying it’s OK to love yourself enough to leave.
To the woman who uses makeup to cover his black and blue insecurity marks on her face, he doesn’t love you. Love shouldn’t hurt. In his arms, you should feel safe and find comfort, not fear. For the one who feels she’s in constant competition with the other women, he doesn’t love you. Nothing is more belittling and disrespectful on his part than letting another woman threaten your security. To the women being taken for granted and for the ones trying to bandage the wounds on their souls, he doesn’t love you. He's not out of your league, sweetheart, you’re out of his! The hardest part is always walking away after you’ve given so much, but if his first instinct wasn’t to appreciate your womanhood the day he met you, then he deserves to lose you.
Believe me, I know it feels good to be in a relationship, but when things don’t go the way they should it’s time to leave. It’s always better to be independent than in a toxic relationship. Don’t worry about love, worry about becoming a better woman. Happiness and self-worth should never revolve around a man. Why is it that as young women we feel we need justification on our own worth? It seems getting to a place of knowing your true value is one of the hardest journeys for women. Self-worth is based on the values you place on yourself and not what someone else may think of you. We need to break the habitual cycle that is "searching for worth" in the eyes of others. The best gift a woman can give herself is love for herself.
Life has this weird way of spiraling out of control sometimes, and amidst all the chaos one tends to lose themselves; in fear, in love, in thought, just completely lost. We’ve all had those days when it seems like the world was out to get us. It is in that moment that we need to remember, who we are. Remember to go through it and grow through it, and never stop being the women that we are. As fragile as we may seem, we are better than the position life has put us in, we are unbreakable.
