31 Answers To "What Is Love?"

31 Answers To "What Is Love?"

Love is so many things, encapsulated in one word.
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It's that time of year where being a little romantic, mushy and cheesy about your significant other, or SO, is socially acceptable thanks to Valentine's Day. Truth be told, I never really cared about V-Day, and while I still don't totally buy into it, I don't mind getting into the romantic spirit.

I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. I never really got what love was, or the multitude of things that are attached to the feeling of love, until I began dating him. (Cue my family and friends calling me sappy.) I've learned over time that love is more than a feeling; it's also actions, other emotions, and experiences. The following list is just some of many things that love encompasses for me.

Love is...

1. Stealing food from their plate, even when you have your own

2. Letting your SO finish your food because your eyes turned out bigger than your stomach

3. Watching your SO get excited over something they care about and getting excited for them

4. Dancing together like no one is watching

5. Getting excited over the same things

6. Feeling happy when your SO is happy

7. Introducing each other to new things or interests that you’d otherwise not be into

8. Having serious discussions on various topics


9. The feeling of wholeness that your SO gives you, even if you never felt like a part of you was missing

10. Waking up before your SO and feeling a surge of emotion at the peaceful look on their sleeping face

11. Going on casual dates more often than fancy ones, and enjoying them so much more

12. Simply enjoying one another’s company

13. Spending all day watching YouTube or Netflix because you're both unapologetically lazy

14. Watching your SO kill it at the things they do best and feeling proud AF

15. Paying attention to what they like (and getting them gifts based on that)

16. The feeling of safety and “home” you get from your SO

17. Long hugs that make the world go away

18. Coming to your SO when you’re having a bad day, knowing they'll make you feel better

19. Feeling proud of their accomplishments as if they were your own

20. Learning each other's likes and dislikes

21. Planning trips for “one day,” even if they might never happen

22. Watching your family happily envelop your SO into the fold

23. Saying “I love you” in more ways than just those three words

24. Talking about your future together like it’s guaranteed

25. All the shared experiences, both good and bad

26. Going on trips together

27. Fighting over both dumb and serious things

28. Being your weird, crazy, true self in front of them and never judging/feeling judged

29. Stealing your SO’s clothing and wearing them because they're basically yours

30. Your SO seeing you at your worst, but staying anyways

31. Always having someone to talk and gossip with

32. All the many, many memories you've created together

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To Everyone Who Hasn't Had Sex Yet, Wait For Marriage, It's The Right Move

If you have not had sex yet, wait.

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Premarital sex is not a new concept, no matter how much people like to pretend it is. You can trace scripture and historical texts back thousands of year to see that lust and fornication have been a problem since… well, since we humans have been problems.

They tell you in sex ed that sex causes you to form a bond with someone. They throw some big chemical names at you that are apparently in your body and cause that emotional attachment to happen, then you move on (or back to) how important condoms are and why STDs are so scary.

As a middle schooler or teenager, you can't understand what it means to become permanently connected to someone as a result of a quick, physical act.

If you haven't even had your first kiss, you really can't imagine what it's like to develop such a complex and intimate connection with someone because you have yet to feel the butterflies in your stomach from a kiss. So you really don't know what it's like to have a whole different type of feeling in your stomach.

You never forget your first love. It's one of the most cliche things you consistently hear, but it's true. Ask anyone. I guarantee your parents can still spurt out their first love's name in a few seconds. And most people never forget their first time. I know all my friends can recount that often awkward and slightly terrifying moment as if it happened an hour ago. When you mix those two, especially if you are in your teens, oh boy.

You never forget that. No matter how hard you try.

Everything you hear about sex is true: it's amazing, fantastic, life-changing, etc. There's a reason people have done it as frequently as they do, for as long as they have. But every time you sleep with someone, you leave a piece of yourself with them. Every time you choose to take that final physical step with someone, you cannot go back and collect that piece of your dignity and soul that you left with someone.

So, imagine what happens when you break up with someone you've slept with. Or that you just hooked up with. You have given someone a little slice of yourself forever. And you can never get it back. And imagine what happens when you do that multiple times. You give a piece of yourself to five, 10, 15, 20 or more people. Then you meet the person that you want to spend forever with. And you no longer have that whole part of you. You've given pieces away, and you can no longer give those to the love of your life.

So, save those pieces for your future spouse.

If you have not had sex yet, wait. If you have, consider not giving more pieces of yourself away to people who are not your spouse. Sex was created to be between two spouses, nobody else. So we need to try to maintain its integrity.

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Santa tell me

Because I've been wondering

If I open up

And by open up

I don't mean a package

Or a bottle of wine

I mean, my heart

It's perfect

Sometimes it's tainted with guilt

But it's kind

It's scared

But still kind

And it's looking for hope

For change

A chance to make a difference

A brighter world for you, Santa

To make everyday feel like Christmas

And yet I still wonder, day after day

Am I being naughty?

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