31 Answers To "What Is Love?"

31 Answers To "What Is Love?"

Love is so many things, encapsulated in one word.
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It's that time of year where being a little romantic, mushy and cheesy about your significant other, or SO, is socially acceptable thanks to Valentine's Day. Truth be told, I never really cared about V-Day, and while I still don't totally buy into it, I don't mind getting into the romantic spirit.

I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. I never really got what love was, or the multitude of things that are attached to the feeling of love, until I began dating him. (Cue my family and friends calling me sappy.) I've learned over time that love is more than a feeling; it's also actions, other emotions, and experiences. The following list is just some of many things that love encompasses for me.

Love is...

1. Stealing food from their plate, even when you have your own

2. Letting your SO finish your food because your eyes turned out bigger than your stomach

3. Watching your SO get excited over something they care about and getting excited for them

4. Dancing together like no one is watching

5. Getting excited over the same things

6. Feeling happy when your SO is happy

7. Introducing each other to new things or interests that you’d otherwise not be into

8. Having serious discussions on various topics


9. The feeling of wholeness that your SO gives you, even if you never felt like a part of you was missing

10. Waking up before your SO and feeling a surge of emotion at the peaceful look on their sleeping face

11. Going on casual dates more often than fancy ones, and enjoying them so much more

12. Simply enjoying one another’s company

13. Spending all day watching YouTube or Netflix because you're both unapologetically lazy

14. Watching your SO kill it at the things they do best and feeling proud AF

15. Paying attention to what they like (and getting them gifts based on that)

16. The feeling of safety and “home” you get from your SO

17. Long hugs that make the world go away

18. Coming to your SO when you’re having a bad day, knowing they'll make you feel better

19. Feeling proud of their accomplishments as if they were your own

20. Learning each other's likes and dislikes

21. Planning trips for “one day,” even if they might never happen

22. Watching your family happily envelop your SO into the fold

23. Saying “I love you” in more ways than just those three words

24. Talking about your future together like it’s guaranteed

25. All the shared experiences, both good and bad

26. Going on trips together

27. Fighting over both dumb and serious things

28. Being your weird, crazy, true self in front of them and never judging/feeling judged

29. Stealing your SO’s clothing and wearing them because they're basically yours

30. Your SO seeing you at your worst, but staying anyways

31. Always having someone to talk and gossip with

32. All the many, many memories you've created together

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Why Girls Love The Dad Bod

If your man can rock the dad bod, he's a keeper.

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In case you haven't noticed lately, girls are all about that dad bod.

Girls have been dealing with body image issues since the beginning of time until recent (for those of you who consider yourselves to be "Thick thin") I hadn't heard about this body type until my roommate mentioned it. She used to be crazy over guys she claimed had the dad bod.

After observing the guys she found attractive, I came to understand this body type well and was able to identify it. The dad bod is a nice balance between a beer gut and working out. The dad bod says, "I go to the gym occasionally, but I also drink heavily on the weekends and enjoy eating eight slices of pizza at a time." It's not an overweight guy, but it isn't one with washboard abs, either.

The dad bod is a new trend and fraternity boys everywhere seem to be rejoicing. Turns out skipping the gym for a few brews last Thursday after class turned out to be in their favor. While we all love a sculpted guy, there is just something about the dad bod that makes boys seem more human, natural, and attractive. Here are a few reasons that girls are crazy about the dad bod.

It doesn't intimidate us.
Few things are worse than taking a picture in a bathing suit, one being taking a picture in a bathing suit with a guy who is crazy fit. We don't want a guy that makes us feel insecure about our body. We are insecure enough as it is. We don't need a perfectly sculpted guy standing next to us to make us feel worse.

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We like being the pretty one.
We love people saying "they look cute together." But we still like being the center of attention. We want to look skinny and the bigger the guy, the smaller we feel and the better we look next to you in a picture.

Better cuddling.
No one wants to cuddle with a rock. Or Edward Cullen. The end.

Good eats.
The dad bod says he doesn't meal prep every Sunday night so if you want to go to Taco Tuesday or $4 pitcher Wednesday, he'd be totally down. He's not scared of a cheat meal because he eats just about anything and everything.

You know what you're getting.
Girls tend to picture their future together with their guys early on. Therefore, if he already has the dad bod going on, we can get used to it before we date him, marry him, have three kids. We know what we are getting into when he's got the same exact body type at the age of 22 that he's going to have at 45.


So there you go. A simple break down of why girls everywhere are going nuts over this body type on males. We like it. We love it. We want some more of it. So here's to you dad bods, keep it up. Men, confidently strut that gut on the beach because while you stare at us in our bikinis we will be staring just as hard.

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Don't Let Your Fear Of Relationships Get In The Way Of Your Happiness

The line "It's not you, it's me," basically describes my life.

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So here it is. An explanation as to why social and dating lives can be a literal mess.

If you are anything like me, relationships are very difficult. Something about the possibility of hurting someone or being hurt is generally a big issue. Just the thought of hurting another person who has been nothing but wonderful to me is a daunting fear of mine that I can not seem to shake. Or being so in your head thinking you will be equally hurt at any given moment is even worse in some cases. The fear of getting attached to someone and then your entire world crashing during a break up is definitely scary.

Not to mention that even everyday anxiety can cause relationship issues. Anxiety comes in many forms. It definitely is not limited to just being nervous or having a panic attack. Sometimes anxiety is as simple as thinking about something for too long and before you know it, your heart is beating uncontrollably for what seems like no reason at all.

Recently I have been having a lot of these issues. The overthinking, confusion, and fear; overthinking about whether or not you and your S.O. are really going to work (when there are no reasons whatsoever that you wouldn't work); being confused about what you are or what you may possibly mess up; and if your anxiety and constant fear about relationships will eventually drive that significant other away. Whatever your tick may be, I am here to tell you that is not the end of the world.

If you are (for some reason) having any doubts or worries about your current relationship, talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend. DO NOT go throughout every single day constantly "wondering" and never give yourself any answers. The worst thing to do is trying to solve these problems (that may not really even be true problems) by yourself. Talking from experience, even if you don't want to talk to your SO about these thoughts, there is always someone willing to listen. Whether it be your best friend, your mom, whomever, these worries will not go away without talking them out.

Don't let your anxieties get the best of you. Majority of the time your partner is more than willing to hear you out instead of ignoring your concerns. Taking the time to explain where your head is at is good for the both of you. It allows you to vent what is on your chest and also gives your significant other a little insight as to what you are going through or thinking about rather than both of you being clueless about the other.

If you are someone who struggles with attachment and anxieties while dating, believe me, you are not alone. I, as well as MANY others, I'm sure, go through the same things. Without a doubt, I can tell whoever is reading this, nearly every couple goes through this at least once, if not more in their relationship. Don't fret, it is completely normal for this to be an experience for you and your partner.

So remember: Talk things out. Express yourself. And most importantly, don't worry unless you absolutely have to.

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