Love: It's Not Just A Feeling

Love: It's Not Just A Feeling

Love conquers all.

Love is an interesting emotion and can be difficult to describe. Sometimes it can leave you feeling absolutely miraculous, and other times love can hurt you beyond repair.

The miraculous thing about love is that everybody has the ability to love and the ability to be loved. I have always found it easy to love and hard to be loved. It’s so easy for me to look at others and see something in them that they do not see in themselves and by loving others; I feel that I am helping them understand their worth. But as strange as it sounds, being loved is hard when you don’t feel like you don’t deserve it.

Love is your soul and your soul is one of the most fragile things you have. When you let someone into that sacred part of your life you have to be careful because as quickly as you let them in, they can ruin your sense of love even faster. This can be a hard pill to swallow, especially when you are first infatuated with someone, but protecting your heart is how you find the right person.

I believe there are aspects of love that everyone is able to relate to. For example, people can love each other without it meaning anything romantically. However, the second that love reaches the point where you love someone to the fullest, you enter into commitment and sacrifice. That means that you are making the conscious decision to stay with each other through thick and thin. It means that you must give some things up in order to make the other person happy. Love means that you have made it to the point where you stick with the other person even if they make a mistake, because chances are that you have made one too.

Love was never meant to be an emotion you can reach with everyone, and that’s OK. I personally believe that you can love more than one person in your lifetime that being said; you can love them for different things. Some you love for teaching, some for comfort and some for encouragement. It’s okay to love people for those reasons, but once you find the person that you believe you are supposed to be with forever I think that the meaning of love changes. Love turns into commitment and loyalty to that specific person. I think you have to care about them with everything you have and you have to sacrifice parts of yourself for them.

Love is one of those things that you essentially have to become part of one another and work as a team. It is because of that reason that it hurts so much when something happens and that is the reason that you care all the time.

Love is personal, but it certainly isn’t just a feeling. Love is an action. It’s something you fight for each day and it’s the reason why you have to see result in order to believe the words others say. When I say I love you, I’m saying it not just because it’s a feeling, but a commitment. I will sacrifice, I will stay loyal and I will do my best to encourage them through everything. I believe love should mean that you overlook their outer flaws and look deeper into their heart. I want it to mean that I love them just and ounce as much as God loves them because that is the ultimate form of love and if I am able to achieve that, then I have accomplished true love.

Love is hard. Love hurts. Love is sacrifice. But let me be the first to tell you, love is worth it. Passion, intimacy and commitment all encompass the meaning of love. But I encourage you to look deeper into the hearts of others and be true, not only in your words, but in your actions. Because love isn’t just an emotion, it’s an acti
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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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The Truth About Dating A Girl With An Anxiety Disorder

She knows how annoying she can be, but she just prays you love her regardless of her flaws.


Anxiety: A nervous disorder characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks.

The definition makes it sound really daunting. Truthfully, there is no one way to describe generalized anxiety disorder if you have it. It is hard to live with, hard to cope with and unfortunately, really hard to date with.

Girls with anxiety are different than the average girl when it comes to relationships. That's just an honest statement, no matter how much it hurts me to say it.

We need the constant reminder that you love us, even though we know in our hearts that you do. We panic when you don't answer your phone, in fear that we did something wrong. We care about your feelings when you say that we don't need to worry and we need to be a little calmer. But it's so damn hard.

It isn't easy to love someone who worries about everything 24/7. Half the time, we know we shouldn't be doing the things we do. We know we shouldn't blow up your phone or ask just one more time if you are mad at us. But we can't help it. It says it right in the definition: compulsive behavior due to excessive uneasiness.

Being with a girl with anxiety is probably downright exhausting. It's exhausting for us to have our minds constantly running and worrying. But I promise it's worth it.

We come to you with everything because you are the one person who always knows how to make us feel better. When we are happy, you are the one person we want to be happy with. We all know the constant reassurance, reminders and the same old arguments get old. It gets old to us too.

There was never a time I wanted to have a panic attack because my boyfriend wasn't answering his phone. In my head, I knew where he was because he was usually in the same three places. I knew he wasn't mad at me because I didn't do anything to make him upset. I knew how busy he was with his classes and he was probably studying and I needed to give him space. But the little voice in my head always argued, "What if you did something wrong? What if he's ignoring you because he's angry? What if he's seen your messages and calls, but no longer wants to be with you?" And then I give in. I call, I text, I cry, I panic. Only to feel even worse 10, 30 or 50 minutes later because you answer angrily, telling me what I already knew after I did what I knew I shouldn't have done.

Having anxiety is almost like having a drug addiction. You know all the things that trigger you. You know all the ways to stay away from the bad places in your mind so you don't end up relapsing. But you do anyway and it hurts worse every single time.

Dating a girl with anxiety is as hard as it gets, but she will love you like no other. She is so incredibly thankful for all the things you put up with to be with her. Because she is worried about being loved, she goes the extra mile to always remind you how much you are loved. She always asks if you are ok because she cares about the answer and knows what it's like not to be ok.

The truth is that dating anybody with anxiety is difficult, but it isn't impossible. You get back everything you put in, even though you may not realize it. Trust me, she is sorry for being the annoying, crying, worried, naggy mess and it embarrasses her because she knows better and she wants to be better for you. But please love her. Hold her, understand her, listen to her, calm her, be there for her. In your heart, you know she would turn around and do all the same things for you in a heartbeat.

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