Love: It's Not Just A Feeling

Love: It's Not Just A Feeling

Love conquers all.

Love is an interesting emotion and can be difficult to describe. Sometimes it can leave you feeling absolutely miraculous, and other times love can hurt you beyond repair.

The miraculous thing about love is that everybody has the ability to love and the ability to be loved. I have always found it easy to love and hard to be loved. It’s so easy for me to look at others and see something in them that they do not see in themselves and by loving others; I feel that I am helping them understand their worth. But as strange as it sounds, being loved is hard when you don’t feel like you don’t deserve it.

Love is your soul and your soul is one of the most fragile things you have. When you let someone into that sacred part of your life you have to be careful because as quickly as you let them in, they can ruin your sense of love even faster. This can be a hard pill to swallow, especially when you are first infatuated with someone, but protecting your heart is how you find the right person.

I believe there are aspects of love that everyone is able to relate to. For example, people can love each other without it meaning anything romantically. However, the second that love reaches the point where you love someone to the fullest, you enter into commitment and sacrifice. That means that you are making the conscious decision to stay with each other through thick and thin. It means that you must give some things up in order to make the other person happy. Love means that you have made it to the point where you stick with the other person even if they make a mistake, because chances are that you have made one too.

Love was never meant to be an emotion you can reach with everyone, and that’s OK. I personally believe that you can love more than one person in your lifetime that being said; you can love them for different things. Some you love for teaching, some for comfort and some for encouragement. It’s okay to love people for those reasons, but once you find the person that you believe you are supposed to be with forever I think that the meaning of love changes. Love turns into commitment and loyalty to that specific person. I think you have to care about them with everything you have and you have to sacrifice parts of yourself for them.

Love is one of those things that you essentially have to become part of one another and work as a team. It is because of that reason that it hurts so much when something happens and that is the reason that you care all the time.

Love is personal, but it certainly isn’t just a feeling. Love is an action. It’s something you fight for each day and it’s the reason why you have to see result in order to believe the words others say. When I say I love you, I’m saying it not just because it’s a feeling, but a commitment. I will sacrifice, I will stay loyal and I will do my best to encourage them through everything. I believe love should mean that you overlook their outer flaws and look deeper into their heart. I want it to mean that I love them just and ounce as much as God loves them because that is the ultimate form of love and if I am able to achieve that, then I have accomplished true love.

Love is hard. Love hurts. Love is sacrifice. But let me be the first to tell you, love is worth it. Passion, intimacy and commitment all encompass the meaning of love. But I encourage you to look deeper into the hearts of others and be true, not only in your words, but in your actions. Because love isn’t just an emotion, it’s an acti
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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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I Love Simplicity In Relationships, But Grand Gestures Still Make Me Swoon

There's nothing wrong with loving fancy dinner dates and takeout in your PJs.


It has come to my attention, as confused as I am by it all, that relationships by society's standards are defined by how fancy your dates are.

If he takes you out, he loves you. If you eat takeout in your sweatpants, he couldn't care less. Is that how this goes?

You realize how ridiculous this sounds, right?

When my boyfriend and I were first beginning our relationship, we, of course, went on dinner dates and had a few drinks. He indulged me and treated me like a princess. That's fine, and I love that on occasion, but let me be the first to say that I'd much rather have us in pajamas eating pizza at 2 AM. I don't need the fancy dates to know he loves me - that is no indication of how we feel for each other.

Now, that's not to say that I don't enjoy the grand gestures he does for me. Slow dancing in his kitchen, buying my morning coffee, or taking me out to dinner is so special.

But I don't need it.

I know he loves me without all that, and I enjoy the simple things we do when we spend time together. From watching The Office to laughing about the day's events and everything in between.

It's not a crime to enjoy both simplicity and grandeur.

It doesn't mean my boyfriend doesn't love me or care for me when we stay in PJs and stuff our faces.

We aren't being "extra" when we go out to dinner or slow dance in his kitchen.

We are simply being us, building a relationship on what we think it should be.

That's enough for me, and it always will be.

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