Love: It's Not Just A Feeling

Love: It's Not Just A Feeling

Love conquers all.
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Love is an interesting emotion and can be difficult to describe. Sometimes it can leave you feeling absolutely miraculous, and other times love can hurt you beyond repair.

The miraculous thing about love is that everybody has the ability to love and the ability to be loved. I have always found it easy to love and hard to be loved. It’s so easy for me to look at others and see something in them that they do not see in themselves and by loving others; I feel that I am helping them understand their worth. But as strange as it sounds, being loved is hard when you don’t feel like you don’t deserve it.

Love is your soul and your soul is one of the most fragile things you have. When you let someone into that sacred part of your life you have to be careful because as quickly as you let them in, they can ruin your sense of love even faster. This can be a hard pill to swallow, especially when you are first infatuated with someone, but protecting your heart is how you find the right person.

I believe there are aspects of love that everyone is able to relate to. For example, people can love each other without it meaning anything romantically. However, the second that love reaches the point where you love someone to the fullest, you enter into commitment and sacrifice. That means that you are making the conscious decision to stay with each other through thick and thin. It means that you must give some things up in order to make the other person happy. Love means that you have made it to the point where you stick with the other person even if they make a mistake, because chances are that you have made one too.

Love was never meant to be an emotion you can reach with everyone, and that’s OK. I personally believe that you can love more than one person in your lifetime that being said; you can love them for different things. Some you love for teaching, some for comfort and some for encouragement. It’s okay to love people for those reasons, but once you find the person that you believe you are supposed to be with forever I think that the meaning of love changes. Love turns into commitment and loyalty to that specific person. I think you have to care about them with everything you have and you have to sacrifice parts of yourself for them.

Love is one of those things that you essentially have to become part of one another and work as a team. It is because of that reason that it hurts so much when something happens and that is the reason that you care all the time.

Love is personal, but it certainly isn’t just a feeling. Love is an action. It’s something you fight for each day and it’s the reason why you have to see result in order to believe the words others say. When I say I love you, I’m saying it not just because it’s a feeling, but a commitment. I will sacrifice, I will stay loyal and I will do my best to encourage them through everything. I believe love should mean that you overlook their outer flaws and look deeper into their heart. I want it to mean that I love them just and ounce as much as God loves them because that is the ultimate form of love and if I am able to achieve that, then I have accomplished true love.

Love is hard. Love hurts. Love is sacrifice. But let me be the first to tell you, love is worth it. Passion, intimacy and commitment all encompass the meaning of love. But I encourage you to look deeper into the hearts of others and be true, not only in your words, but in your actions. Because love isn’t just an emotion, it’s an acti
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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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To The Friend I Rarely See Anymore

I wish you nothing but the best.

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When we graduated high school, we thought it was the end for us. The distance would ruin us and we wouldn't be able to call ourselves friends. Thankfully, you were my rock for the first year of school. You were the one I turned to when the adjustment was hard or when I needed someone to talk to and just listen. We never lost our connection for a whole year. We proved that nothing could pull us apart no matter how far the distance, no matter the different schedules. We were still best friends.

Another summer came and we only got stronger. We went on countless beach trips, late night hangouts, and Starbucks runs. I didn't even think it was possible to be this much closer to you than we already were. If we weren't together, we would Snapchat or text to never stop the conversation.

Now summer ended, we didn't think twice about losing our connection this time. We had a bond stronger than anyone could fathom. We once again went our separate ways and kept our texting and Snapchat habits.

But something changed.

It must've been the comfort level of sophomore year. It must've been all the new friends we got. It must have been the boys who entered our lives. We don't speak anymore. I haven't seen you since winter break. I haven't texted you since New Year's Eve. Our connection, one that was once thought to be indestructible, came crumbling down with sophomore year. I am not going to lie, sophomore year was the best of my life, but I knew you were missing the whole time. It wasn't the same without you.

I'm not upset you chose to focus your time and life on your new boyfriend. I am happy for you. I am not upset you spend more time with your school friends. I am happy for you. I am not upset you don't text me anymore and killed our streak. I know you're living a happy life. And I am too.

We may have gone our separate ways like we never imagined, but I am happy you are finally happy. Don't forget for one second that I will always be here for you. I will still always answer your text. I will still always be your shoulder to cry on even when no one else is there for you. I wish you nothing but the best, and I hope you're doing ok.

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