What is heartbreak? Is it enough to just smile and move on? Everyone wants to find love and be loved, but nowadays, who really wants to be “in love”. But honestly, what exactly is love? Love in this generation, my generation, is defined by sexual relations without the commitment. In the words of my father, “Love is not a feeling, it is a commitment.” Once you think about it, we’re all too young to really experience love. But with love comes everything. And what is heartbreak? Is it sitting in the corner thinking you have lost it all? Or is it moving on like tomorrow won’t change a thing? So what is love? You can go and ask anybody and each of their answers will be different. – Because each of their experiences is different. We will only truly know what love is when we make ourselves open to pain. (Keep in mind, this is all my opinion.)
Do I speak from experience? Of course not. I personally do not believe I have ever been in love…maybe strong like, but never love. I just want to know why love is so wanted among a people that can’t seem to handle what it dishes out. Daddy issues? No, not at all. In all honesty, I am a daddy’s girl, now, that man has my heart. He always tells me, “If he cannot treat you better than I can then he does not deserve you.” Which brings me to the list, I have this long list of what I want in a man. I know, “How cliché.”, But is it really? What is wrong with desiring a certain standard of the man you would like to love. But, no one is perfect. However, what is perfect in my eyes may not be what is perfect in another woman’s eyes. I am young, some would say, certainly too young to try and find love. You have a whole lifetime to find the one you want to be with, why rush what will eventually happen anyway? But why settle for waiting when you can just go out and find love.
Here it is, love is like a needle in a haystack. You will go through what seems like a never-ending list of hopelessness before you find what you are looking for. Which brings me to the question, “Why look?” “There is someone for everyone”, just be patient and wait on God. Also seems cliché, yet it is true.
No, I have never experienced a love outside of what God can give to his child and what a father can give to his daughter. However, what I have seen – Makes you question everything. I have seen love that curses, abuses, and cheats. These things are not love at all. There is this saying that goes, “Love is felt most when it’s genuine.” Genuine being without lie and question. Love is so pure, however, we as humans seem to corrupt even the most beautiful of things. Love is perfect because it was created by a perfect God. If you do not love yourself, how can you fully love someone else?
Everyone struggles with the, “I’m not good enough” phase in their life. Now does it take a significant other to come to the rescue and save you from yourself…I do not know, never has that happened to me. However, it took me knowing who I am and whose I am to bring me to the place in my life where I am today.
Relationships are overrated. I say this because I have seen so many bogged down by what they believe is love, and it is nothing but a façade of hopes. Yes, find your true love, be happy. But in turn, do not be so focused on finding love that you give up on everything else.
Now that will not be my forever mentality, but right now it is. It is worth me knowing what I can accomplish to make me strive to where I want to be. “The sky is the limit”, no, wrong. There is no limit to success, and there is no limit to your dreams.
Who knows, in striving to where you need to be, you might just find love without even having to look. Then again, what good is a love if you have to search for it?
