There is this common misconception that girls are complicated and confusing when it comes to love. However, in the grand scheme of things, it comes down to one thing. She wants to be loved with a sense of certainty.
She wants to feel your love in those striking moments of doubt when it’s not easy to stay. She wants to see your reddened eyes from emotion and frustration from an argument but know, without hesitation, that you love her.
She wants to know that her heart is secure and safe in your hands. She is a woman that won’t always be simple. She will argue with you, but you must know, it is because she loves you.
She desires to be loved even when you are apart, especially then. She wants security when you’re at a party or with your friends and she isn’t with you. When another girl approaches you, this is when she wants you to love her the most because that's the love that's fading away.
To love with patience and loyalty when things aren’t easy, to love with eyes only for the other, is a rare thing in today’s world.
Actions speak louder than words ever could. She wants your actions to scream that you love her. She wants to know that you love her not just by ‘I love you.’
She doesn’t care about the grand gestures. Yes, they are nice occasionally. However, she doesn’t need to be taken to a five-star dinner with flowers and candles all the time. This isn’t how you, solely, love her.
You love her by not breaking her. You love her by securing her trust and never betraying it, you love her by not seeking comfort or validation in another individual.
Even if she's on the other side of the world, she wants you to still feel her presence, her touch, her lips on your skin.
She wants you to love her in all her forms. She wants you to love even the parts of her that can’t seem to love. She wants you to see her at her worst and still think ‘she is the only one I want.’
She wants you to stare at her without a trace of makeup on, consumed with insecurity, and look at her with such sincerity and intimacy that she believes that she is beautiful.
She doesn’t want you to change and never disagree with her, but she does want you to push her. She wants the push every day to be better, a better version of herself. Don’t ever let her give up on her talents and dreams even if she is saying she can’t do it anymore. She wants you to believe in her.
She wants to be the first person you turn to when your dreams come true. She wants you to see her next to you when you fulfill your every dream. She wants to inspire you to get everything from this life that you want because she believes in you.
When you look at her, she doesn’t just want you to see the woman that you want to grow old with or have kids with. She wants to be the reason you feel alive, the reason you love your life.
She wants to be the reason you want to wake up in the morning with a smile and go to bed knowing that everything will be okay.
She wants to feel like dating her is not the end of your freedom, but the beginning of it. Don’t settle with her, start with her.
This is how she wants to be loved. She won’t demand it or even tell you that it's what she wants. However, if you can’t love her like this, she doesn't want your love at all.
And for you, she should do the same thing.
