Ever wonder if you are really in love with someone? Whether it's the boy you've had a crush on for a while now or the girl you've been dating for a few months. Here are some ways to help you self-evaluate if you aren't quite sure you feel those three little words yet:
1. That special feeling
You're not in love if you get jittery and butterflies when you're with them. Panicky sweating, high heart rate, and clammy hands are all pretty good signs that you're crushing hard on someone, but also that you're probably not in love with them just yet.
You are in love if you feel warm inside and at home when you're with them. Love makes you feel completely yourself and comfortable around someone, which isn't gonna trigger your heart rate as much.
2. Hanging out
There is pressure to be spectacular and perfect when you spend time together and to go all out every time. There is also a lot of nerves and worry about whether or not the other person is having fun, and you spend most of the time thinking of your partner and not your own enjoyment.
The pressure of perfection is gone, and you can enjoy a date of takeout and Netflix in your pajamas, just as much as you could enjoy a fancy dinner date. Dates don't have to be as fancy, but they are all just as special.
3. Conversations
If you're not in a relationship, every time you have a conversation with this person, in the back of your mind, no matter what you're talking about, you're freaking out because this person you like is speaking to you! If you are in a relationship, you get giddy, and most conversations you have when you're alone turn into make-out sessions, mainly because you have no restraint or will to keep your hands off each other.
If you're in love with someone, conversations come easy, and you're not a jittery and nervous mess. Sometimes you get a big warm feeling in your chest that just says, "I love talking with this person." It's not that the fire or excitement of a relationship has gone away, you just have self-control because you trust and are comfortable with the person you love.
4. The feeling
If you aren't in love with someone and someone asks you, you will probably hesitate, even if it's just for a moment. Or, if you don't, there's gonna be some nagging voice in the back of your head that asks whether you really are or tells you that you know you're not.
You will know. You may go a long time in your life, dating and having crushes, thinking you have been in love once or twice before, but when you really fall in love for the first time, you realize it all at once. There will be a moment, whether that's while you're talking to them, or spending time with them, or even when you're not, when a light bulb will go off in your head and you will know, "I love them."
