They say love is blind. Well, I say “they," I used to think it, too. The idea that when we truly love someone, we are unable to see their wrongs. We are unable to see their mistakes and their flaws. Well I think that phrase itself is a little flawed. You see, we aren’t actually blind to these things. When we truly love someone, we make the conscious decision to see beyond their faults for the sake of real love. I may only be 20 years old, but I can confidently say that if you don’t know what that’s like, you may not yet know true love.
I think being “blind” in love, is what makes it love. As human beings, we are scientifically programmed to make mistakes. We are not meant to be perfect. If everyone defined one another based on their mistakes or bad decisions they have made in the past, I’m afraid love wouldn’t exist. In a world full of sinners, we can only hope to find someone who sees us not for our faults, but for everything else we are and will ever be in this lifetime. We can only hope to find someone who sees the good in us and pushes us every day to be better.
Love is anything but easy. The “easy” part lasts for about three to five months and then your relationship gets tested, and that phase lasts for the rest of the time you choose to stay together. In that time, there will be many mistakes made, many bad decisions, some big and some small, and there will be times when the other person drives you so mad, you begin to question if it’s worth it. In some cases, if it begins to affect you in a way that causes you to feel less of yourself, then no, it most definitely is not worth it. But if you truly love that person, you won’t look at them and see their mistakes. Instead, you will love them through it and you will help them to grow from it. You will see more in them than they see in themselves. You will see all that they are and dwell not on the sins they have committed. For have we all not sinned and been forgiven through the most unfailing source of love there is? Would we even exist if that love only saw us as evil? What if He had given up on us?
I think this is what separates real love from mediocre love: the willingness to be a little blind. Mediocre love is the same at first, but when it comes to the part where we are tested, we tend to think that if it isn’t still easy, then it isn’t still worth it. But what we should all realize is that nothing good will ever come easy. Real love is something you work for. It’s picking and choosing your battles, it’s compromise, it’s forgiveness, it's persistence, and it’s seeing the flaws and loving them anyway.
Most people think loving someone after they’ve hurt you is a sign of weakness. But I think there is a lot of strength in choosing to see the good in people instead of the bad. There is a point, yes, if you are repeatedly being hurt by someone who shows no remorse or desire to learn from their mistakes and you find that it is affecting you and who you are, then that is not love. But if the other person loves you unconditionally and has every intention of growing with you and becoming who they know you deserve, if the other person chooses to see love in you in spite of your flaws, then you should be there when they fall and be willing to pick them back up.
If we gave up on everyone who failed us, no one would have anyone. And love is too powerful and too precious to our lives not to give it all we have. In the end, it’s all we really leave behind in this world that truly matters.
Love is not blind. It sees all and loves anyway.
