Running into walls and realizing you break your own heart is just plain sucky. I know, you know, and just about everyone in the world has reached a point where they question themselves and where they are at in life.

Because of that we sometimes forget there’s light on the other side of the window, and sometimes we just need a little reminder that life is difficult and it’s nothing you couldn’t get through. We’ve heard the inspirational phrases before… But there is truth in them.

Like losing a friendship isn’t something to fret over, you have and will have plenty of them throughout your lifetime. Besides, the relationship between you two (or more) isn’t really lost. It’s drifted, misplaced; you were friends for a reason, something you could always get back, but you don’t have to necessarily. Some are meant for a short amount of time, but they helped you become who you are today. Just remember that and think about this:

1. Hold on to the good memories

There was a reason you were friends, they made you feel included, happy, brave, confident, SOMETHING. Even if it ended up badly: something good came out of it. You learn from your mistakes (and theirs) and you’ve taken more out of it than you would have if you weren’t friends with this person/these people. Those are the things you hold onto rather than how it ended or what went wrong.

2. Remember how they’ve helped you?

The friendship you’ve endured was sure to help you learn from your or even their mistakes. Thinking about what went right and wrong in this friendship can help you better present/future relationships. What did the other person/people do that wasn’t ideal? Look at your own mistakes, should you not have yelled at her the way you did? You never realize the trueness in the fact that they have helped you learn about yourself.

3. Teaching you about friendship

Don’t you remember that one skill they taught you, you never knew before? In fact, you still do it today. Or that piece of advice that crossed over saving you from making the biggest mistake in your life or making the best. They taught you how a friendship works or shouldn't work. Showing you when and how to trust, and when not to. You learn about the type of people you want to surround yourself with and the people you need.

4. It’s not meant to be right now

This happens all the time. Sometimes you just lose touch with people. It doesn’t mean they meant any less in your life than anyone else, stuff just happens. Same with relationships, some friendships just aren’t meant to last, maybe they’ll come back later on, but you never know. What to do now? You appreciate the good and learn from where you came from.

Friends are the family you get to choose.