I'm sure that everyone has lost a friendship at some point in their life. Losing friendships is a normal thing that people go through. It can be tough for some and easy for others. For me, deciding that it is time to leave a friendship behind is something very difficult for me but sometimes it is necessary.
People grow apart as they get older or start new chapters in their lives.
Personalities change, perspectives change, and that's okay. Speaking from experience, I have let go of a friendship that meant the world to me. I thought that we would be best friends until the day we died.
It was not an easy decision for us to part ways from each other. We were so close and it was hard to picture a life without that friendship in it.
As high school was ending and we were approaching college, our friendship changed. We were both going through a lot of tough things and we weren't the same people that we were when we started our friendship.
As we began to drift apart we realized that our friendship was coming to an end. This didn't mean we hated each other or that we didn't have respect for one another anymore. We still have nothing but love and respect for each other. I wish her nothing but the best in life and I know she wishes the same for me.
You know it is time to let go of a friendship when the motivation to put in the effort is gone. When you no longer want to work to make your friendship better. When thinking about your friendship causes you stress and unhappiness. It not fair to either one of you to continue something that isn't healthy for other another anymore.
Ending a friendship does not mean that you need to be bitter towards one another.
The love and respect you once had for each other and that should continue even if your relationship doesn't.
Ending a friendship does not mean that the friendship won't come back around in the future. If that person was meant to be in your life then as you mature and grow, the relationship will come back to you. Ending a friendship does not mean that you are a bad friend or a bad person. Ending a friendship means you are strong enough to recognize when the love and respect for one another are fading.
When you find yourself ending a friendship with a close friend, it can be one of the hardest things to go through. Losing someone close to you is never easy but it is okay to move on from and let go of friendships. At the end of the day, you need to do what is best for you and your friendship. If the friendship is not meshing like it used to then that's the sign that you need to move on. If it was meant to be, the friendship will come back.
