I Looked My Boyfriend In The Eyes For 1 Minute, And This Is What I Learned

I Looked My Boyfriend In The Eyes For 1 Minute, And This Is What I Learned

Sometimes we need to slow down and look at what is around us.

In life, we are all going at such a fast pace that we do not take the time to appreciate what is in front of us. The other day, I stumbled on an article from Bustle that had an activity where you would look at your significant other for a minute without touching, or talking. It said some people can do the full minute and others can’t and my inner Barney from How I Met Your Mother instantly thought, “Challenge Accepted.” So later in the week, I told my boyfriend about it and he kind of laughed at first but then agreed to it.

I pulled out my phone to have the timer going and the minute begun. At first, it was kind of awkward and we giggled a couple of times. We did have to stop a couple of times because he tried to kiss me, but I was determined that we could do it. After 15 seconds, I took it more seriously. My mind began to wonder and I thought of different things.

I noticed the specks of green in his bluish eyes. The scar he got on his upper cheek from an incident with his little brother. The light brown freckles scattered across his face and the dilation of his pupils because I know they do that when he is looking at me.

I learned that he is patient and willing to do something that he might not really want to, just to make me happy, like this exercise! I think about how in relationships it is about give and take and for us, we are always talking about “equal partnership” and we both mean it. Yes, I pay for some of his food too.

I learned that I can actually be cherished by someone. The way he looks at me, it took me a while to see and other people would point it out, but the minute I saw it, made me super happy. Now when I look at him, I go back to the first time he looked at me that way. Where I was one of the more important people in his life. Just like he is one of the more important people in my life.

I learned that silence can speak so many words. Sometimes just looking at another person, connecting them does not require words. I am one to believe in souls and soulmates and all that gushy stuff so doing this activity really made me for good because I totally support the whole, “eyes are the door to the soul.”

I do not know what he learned while looking at me, or even if he did learn anything, but I am glad he did this with me.

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Dad, it's all your fault.

I always tell my dad that no matter who I date, he's always my number one guy. Sometimes I say it as more of a routine thing. However, the meaning behind it is all too real. For as long as I can remember my dad has been my one true love, and it's going to be hard to find someone who can top him.

My dad loves me when I am difficult. He knows how to keep the perfect distance on the days when I'm in a mood, how to hold me on the days that are tough, and how to stand by me on the days that are good.

He listens to me rant for hours over people, my days at school, or the episode of 'Grey's Anatomy' I watched that night and never once loses interest.

He picks on me about my hair, outfit, shoes, and everything else after spending hours to get ready only to end by telling me, “You look good." And I know he means it.

He holds the door for me, carries my bags for me, and always buys my food. He goes out of his way to make me smile when he sees that I'm upset. He calls me randomly during the day to see how I'm doing and how my day is going and drops everything to answer the phone when I call.

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My dad also knows when to give tough love. He knows how to make me respect him without having to ask for it or enforce it. He knows how to make me want to be a better person just to make him proud. He has molded me into who I am today without ever pushing me too hard. He knew the exact times I needed to be reminded who I was.

Dad, you have my respect, trust, but most of all my heart. You have impacted my life most of all, and for that, I can never repay you. Without you, I wouldn't know what I to look for when I finally begin to search for who I want to spend the rest of my life with, but it might take some time to find someone who measures up to you.

To my future husband, I'm sorry. You have some huge shoes to fill, and most of all, I hope you can cook.

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