School just recently started up again which meant that I had to move back to my college, and my boyfriend had to stay back at home for his job. Although we are only a few hours away I still consider this long-distance because we are not able to see each other without some planning involved around everyone's schedule.
One of my boyfriend's coworkers recently asked him if he was going to cheat since I am not there anymore and when he responded no he proceeded to tell him how I am probably cheating on him since I am a college girl.
This irritates me beyond belief because although both of us trust each other it's hard to not have a little voice in your head when everyone is constantly planting the idea that the other is cheating. I am so sick of people creating this stereotype. Cheating is honestly, in my opinion, one of the worst things you can possibly do to another person.
It is so frustrating that there is this stereotype surrounding college life and that someone is going to cheat when your not around because that's just how you behave in college. There are constantly stories of people going out and partying and cheating at the party, that since their significant other isn't there to constantly watch they are going to go off and cheat.
It is extremely frustrating when you know that that's not who you are.
Not only is the stereotype surrounding college students, but anyone who can not see their significant other on regular basis. That, since there isn't that check one or the other, is going to cheat. It's so hard to combat stereotypes when everyone around you is feeding these lies into your ears.
Let's get one thing clear here cheating is a choice. You made a conscious decision to go out and do something with someone else while supposedly being committed to someone already. Cheating is not inevitable that will occur no matter what when put into certain situations.
This also brings up the point that it's not manly for a guy to have two girls who don't know about each other in his life. A real man knows when he has a good thing and when he doesn't is willing to wait for it. A girl is not a slut for cheating, she made a mistake and I agree that at it's wrong and she should face consequences but don't slut shame. It's not fair for there to be two standards on cheating.
At the end of the day it's not your business about anyone's relationship, so BUTT OUT!
