Moving on from high school and going off to college is exciting in so many ways and marks a new, significant chapter in one's life. However, one of it's few letdowns is that for many of us, the distance that college brings takes us away from our best friend. Whether they're a town or a thousand miles away, not seeing your high school BFF everyday and having weekly sleepovers is probably one of the hardest adjustments you have to make from high school to college. Luckily, if you really have found your "person", you realize that a true friendship can endure any amount of distance and that, even though your best friend may not be at college with you, they'll still be a huge part of your college life. So what has my long distance best friend taught me?
You don't have to talk to someone everyday or see them all the time in order to remain friends.
When you're young, you spend endless amounts of time with your best friend. Sleepovers are expected to happen every weekend, you're constantly updated on each other's lives, and you are basically attached at the hip. College changes this. Not only are you most likely miles apart from one another, but you're busy with school, sports, college friends, parties, and all the other exciting things that college brings. I've learned that time can go by without talking to someone and they can still be your best friend. You'll make more time for each other after you experience life on your own.
But if someone wants to be part of your life, they'll make an effort to reach out to you. And you'll do the same.
One of the best How I Met Your Mother quotes is: "You will be shocked kids, when you discover how easy it is in life to part ways with people forever. That's why, when you find someone you want to keep around, you do something about it." This quote perfectly depicts an important lesson I've learned from going off to college: if someone wants to be in your life, they'll make the effort to be in it. Even though a week or two may go by, my best friend will always reach out to me and catch up on life, no matter how busy or stressed she may be. And I'll do the same.
Even after months of being apart, somehow when you're reunited things are exactly the same.
Usually, seeing someone for the first time after several months apart can be awkward or simply different. However, with your best friend, it's as if no time has passed at all. Sure, you're a little wiser and may have changed a bit. But you still uncontrollably laugh and go back to your obnoxious habits when you're together and continue making even more unforgettable memories.
Whenever you need to talk to someone, to vent, or just share some exciting news, they'll still be there for you-even if it's through text or a long FaceTime call.
Sometimes you just need to talk to your best friend, whether it's with good or bad news. Luckily, no matter how busy, stressed, or preoccupied they are with college life, your best friend will always make time for you. And for some reason, even though they have probably never met half the people you are talking about and have no idea what the organic chemistry class you are failing even is, they are still the first person you want to talk to. Thank God for texting, long phone calls, and much-needed FaceTime chats.
Some friendships are just meant to last forever.
Whether you like it or not, some people are just meant to remain in your life forever. After going through those embarrassing awkward years together in middle school and giving endless relationship advice to one another throughout high school, it's safe to say you two have enough inside jokes and memories together that make you destined to be best friends for life. When you've found the Yang to your Meredith, there's no stopping the two of you.
