The past three years I have been in a "transition" period recuperating from my parents divorce. At first I fought the decision, thinking I had control over the outcome. For me, the scariest part of the divorce was not the actual fact of my parents separating, but all that follows that. The moving of houses, the new routines, not seeing one parent as often and the fact that my life will have taken a complete 360 degree turn.

My world was being turned upside down, and I had no control over it.

So given that this was a done deal -- my parents getting divorced -- I felt I had only two choices. One choice was to fight it and be miserable, and the second choice was to accept that this is my life and live with it. I soon realized It's not just a matter of choosing which path to take at a fork in the road, rather navigating through both trying to reach the destination.

After moving out of my home, which I had grown to love, I had to figure out how to start this new life in a new place. Thankfully, my mom did just about everything to help us along the process, but I still had the hardest time coming to terms with everything.

Again, I found myself struggling with the fact that I had no control over it.

By the first year into living in my new home, things were finally settling down and everyone was starting to get into their routine and were finding their safe ground again. It was then when I realized that all my family was able to feel safe and happy again, but I was still not. That's when I decided I had to make a change and figure this big mess out. I had been going to counseling -- which I really do recommend -- and my whole perspective of the situation was new.

I began to fully understand that this is my life, and if I wanted to be happy, I needed to put in work. For me, it was a matter of coming to terms with the changes that have been made for my safety and my happiness. I do believe that had been a major issue for me; identifying that this divorce had happened to make a change that was long over-due and much needed for each of my family members. Even if it was not what I had wanted at the time, this change was needed for me to grow into the person I need to be. And that's the thing; change in our lives is put there for us to grow and learn. It is most of the time very hard, but once you have adapted and come to terms the growth is amazing.

Stop fighting the change in your life, it got me nowhere except making me unhappy. It is inevitable and will always be happening to you. Embrace it and learn from it. I think that people, including me, fight change because they focus on all they are giving up rather than what they will gain.

Change is scary. Change will happen. Change is good.