"Hey so I know you wanted to go to the movies, but oh my gosh did you just see that car explode"? I know exactly what you're thinking, "that sounds like someone who has A.D.D". Yes, you are correct. Having A.D.D. is not a bad thing to have, actually, it's quite common in today's society. THERE IS MEDICINE THAT CAN CURE THIS FOR PEOPLE.

A.D.D. stands for Attention Deficit Disorder. I feel like so many people have it because who can seriously sit still and pay attention to anything for very long? If you live with someone who has it or have friends who have it, please be understanding towards us. We can't help that we have it. Yes, we may have random moments, impulsive acts, and zone out but we mean well.

Yes, it's hard having A.D.D. and life is more difficult for us than the average person. Yes, we wish we could change that but it's part of who we are and we try to make the best out of it. To be honest, everything is more intensified and magnified. Our brilliant minds are constantly in motion creating, designing, thinking, and never resting. Having A.D.D. is like having a merry go around inside your head spinning around constantly. It's kind of exhausting sometimes to have ADD...

If you love someone who has A.D.D., or a friend who has it, or a sibling you never know what to say. You have to be careful with the choice of words you use because you don't know if it'll come out the wrong way to them. We can handle anything you tell us, it's just the way it's said that can throw us off sometimes and we'll take it another way when it's the opposite.

"ADD is a mysterious condition of opposites and extremes. For instance, when it comes to concentration, people with ADD cannot concentrate when they are emotional or when their thoughts are distracted. However, when they are interested in a specific topic, they zone in so deep that it’s hard to pull them out of that zone. Starting a project is a challenge; but stopping it is an even bigger challenge". June Silny

They say true love is unconditional, but when you love someone who has ADD it can present situations that test the limits of your true love. The best way to bring an understanding and peace into both of your lives is to learn new ways and a new mindset to deal with the emotional roller-coaster that ADD brings all-day-every-day.

When you begin to understand what a person with ADD feels like, it will help you become more patient, tolerant, compassionate and loving. Your relationships will become more enjoyable and relaxing. This is what goes on in the mind of someone with ADD/ADHD: PLEASE WATCH THIS VIDEO BECAUSE IT WILL MAKE MORE SENSE !!! You will probably be like, "wow yeah that is definitely my friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, brother, sister, etc... " and everything will make sense. Perhaps you will laugh watching this because it's a hundred percent on point and it reminds you of someone.

1. They have a very active mind

ADD people's brains do not stop. There is no on/off switch. It's a burden but one needs to learn how to manage shutting their brain off. This is true to an extent. I can shut my brain off normally when I need to. It's all about self-control.

2. They listen but don't absorb what is being said.

A person with ADD will pay attention to YOU and look at you, hear your words, watch your lips move, but after the first five words their mind is on a journey. I beg to differ this isn't the case with every person who has ADD. I know with me I can zone out, but I tend to listen. If this happens just bear with us.

3. They have difficulty staying on task.

If you've ever wondered why someone has such a hard time staying on task when you ask them to do something it all makes sense now doesn't it? Instead of keeping the focus on what’s in front of them, people with ADD are staring at the colors in the painting on the wall. This doesn't mean we can't stay on task. Everyone is different and has a different reaction but I always do my best to stay on task.

4. They become anxious easily.

As deep thinkers, they are sensitive to whatever is going on around them. Being in a noisy restaurant can sound like you are standing in the front row at a Metallica concert. Yes, this is true we can become anxious easily if we are excited about something we are passionate about, like, love, or just in general happy for.

5. They can’t concentrate when they are emotional.

If there is something they are worried about, going on, stressed about emotionally: a person with ADD can not think of anything else. This makes concentrating on things like work, people, and social situations a little harder to focus on.

6. They concentrate too intensely.

When the doors of their minds open, the person with ADD dives in like a sky diver jumping out of a plane. This is 100% accurate so if you're trying to get our attention and say our name more than once just know we aren't ignoring you we are just really in the ZONE!

7. They have difficulty stopping a task when they are in the zone.

While soaring threw the sky they will try to stay up for as long as they can. They will cruise around the air for ever until they are starting to fall towards land. They won't come down until they fall to the ground.

8. They are unable to regulate their emotions.

For a person with ADD, their emotions are flying wild, out of proportion and cannot be contained. The tangled wires in their brilliant brains make thought and feelings difficult to process. They need extra time to get their systems up and running properly. This is true to an extent but like I said everyone is different. I can handle my emotions pretty well.

9. They have verbal outbursts.

These intense emotions can be hard to control sometimes. They tend to impulsively say whatever is on their minds. Which they end up regretting later on after saying them. I'm not saying every ADD person is like this, but some can be.

10. They are deeply intuitive.

For people with ADD, the surface is an invisible exterior that they penetrate. They see beyond it. This is the most enjoyable aspect of ADD. This inspirational trait is what makes creative geniuses. Inventors, artists, musicians, and writers thrive in this zone.

11. They have social anxiety.

This isn't true for all people with ADD but I love being around people and chatting with everyone. I don't get like this, but this is one of the common things. People with ADD sometimes feel uncomfortable knowing that they are different, so they tend to feel uncomfortable in social situations. They are afraid they will say something foolish or react inappropriately. Holding back feels safer.

12. They think outside of the box.

This is where our creative side of the brain comes in handy! Another wonderful aspect of ADD is that because they think differently, their abstract minds see solutions to problems that the concrete thinker cannot see.

13. They are impatient and fidgety.

This is 100% on point and I couldn't have said it better myself! We do get Annoyed easily, we want things to things to happen immediately, and we are constantly playing on our phones but then again who doesn't do that. The whole twirling the hair thing is sometimes true (although it could come off as flirting), or bouncing our legs up and down; a person with ADD needs constant motion. It’s a calming Zen activity for them. I have certainly worked on this one though.

14. They are physically sensitive.

Pencils feel heavy in their hand. Fibers in fabric that most people wouldn’t feel can be itchy. Beds are bumpy. Food has textures you can’t imagine.

15. They are disorganized.

This one I am definitely guilty of doing but who hasn't been disorganized in their life at some point right?

Piles are their favorite method of organizing. Once a task is complete, papers related to it are placed in a pile, where they stay until the piles grow too high. That’s when the person with ADD becomes overwhelmed, frustrated, and cleans up. People with ADD have to be careful to not become hoarders. It’s hard for a person with ADD to keep things in order because their brain doesn’t function in an orderly manner.

16. They avoid tasks.

Cut us some slack here, because we really would love to not avoid tasks. Making decisions or completing tasks on time is a struggle. Not because they are lazy or irresponsible, but because their minds are full of options and possibilities.

17. They are passionate about everything they do.

The emotions, thoughts, words, and touch of a person with ADD is powerful. Everything is magnified. This is a blessing when channeled properly. When a person with ADD does something, they do it with their heart and soul. They give it all they’ve got. They are intense, perceptive, and deep. This quality is what makes the person with ADD so lovable.

Basically, a person with ADD/ADHD has trouble controlling their impulses. They also have many awesome qualities that you will enjoy once you understand how they think and feel.

Compassion, empathy and patience will carry you through the most difficult times. It’s important to take extra care of yourself; take alone time regularly, do what you enjoy, find a support group, a therapist or a compassionate wise friend, take frequent vacations, meditate, find hobbies and your own passion. Most of all, learn how to breathe.

Some of the greatest inventors, artists, musicians, entrepreneurs, and writers had ADD/ADHD. They succeeded because they had a loved one just like you supporting them through their daily struggles. Replace your anger with compassion.

Realize how they struggle to do what comes easy to you. Think of the ADD brain, as one with electrical wiring in the wrong circuits. Next time you think that they are lazy, irresponsible, disorganized, and avoiding responsibilities; try to remember how hard they have to work extra hard to achieve a simple task.

Yes, ADD/ADHD people are hard to love, but once you understand the burden they are carrying, your heart will open up. Love and compassion will take the place of anger. You will see into their sweet and good soul.- June Silny

Please don't wave off people with ADD. We really are just like everyone else, except our minds think a bit differently than the average person. Like I said earlier, some of us wish we didn't have ADD, but we were diagnosed with it, and this is what we have to live life with.