If you have an older sibling or younger sibling, you may feel like you're always being compared to them by your parents or your relatives. The older sibling may be more successful than you -they have their own business, they've graduated with an MA, or maybe they've just been doing better than you- or maybe your younger sibling is excelling in sports or is at the top of their class, whereas you may have just barely made the top 20%.

There's no reason to feel like you're living in your sibling(s) shadow, even if it seems that way. You and your sibling(s) are different people- you each have your own thoughts, behaviors, and beliefs, and although you might share similarities, you're still an individual.

We all succeed in our own way. Your family may constantly remind you of how well your sibling(s) is doing as compared to you, but instead of cowering and feeling ashamed, point out to your family that you have your own achievements. You may have gotten a promotion at work or are finally getting a good grade in your hardest class. Maybe you and your significant other have taken your relationship to the next level or you've begun to pay off your student loans. Celebrate those victories and remind your family that you, too, are worthy of recognition and praise.

It may seem harder during the holidays to step out from your sibling(s) shadow, as they may want to have all the attention for themselves. It's time to speak up and stand out. Don't let your sibling(s) steal your spotlight. Put yourself out there and let your relatives and friends know what you've achieved.

Don't bring your sibling(s) down; bring them up. If they see you succeed, they'll be happy for you. It's easier when you both celebrate those little victories in life together. Even if your achievements aren't on the same level, you and your sibling(s) have a right to be proud of what you've accomplished. It may seem like you're living in their shadow, but you can still choose to make yourself known to your family and still give your sibling(s) the recognition they deserve, too.