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Thinking About Moving In With Your Best Friend? You Better Think Twice About That

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Akanksha Tyagi

Jan 14, 2019

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Living on your own comes with many freedoms. It's an exciting stage in your life where you are free from cramped dorm rooms, your parents barking at you to clean your room, and finally being free. Who better to share these benefits with than your best friend?

Wrong.

Living on your own also comes with many challenges like splitting housekeeping responsibilities, cooking for yourself, adapting to your roommate's lifestyle habits, and all in all compromising, which is where relationships can face some serious stress.

I am speaking from personal experience after having made a unanimous decision with my best friend that it would be a great idea to live together. We'd lived in the same dormitory on different floors and we'd spend each waking moment with each other to the point where people would ask us if we were roommates. We decided to make that a reality, but from my experience, it doesn't mean you have to make that a reality with your bestie.

Here are some things to consider if you and your best friend are thinking of moving in together:

1. It's Not Going To Be A Sleepover

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A never-ending sleepover with your best friend might sound appealing now, but once you start living with someone it truly tests the foundation of your relationship. Little quirks about them that you may have found amusing earlier, you might find unbearable now. It's not something you can change about them, but it's better not to turn a healthy relationship into one where you examine every character flaw of theirs.

2. Choosing Commitment Over Conflict

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Should you and your best friend be stuck in a conflict, you may choose to preserve your relationship instead of getting into a fight over something tiny. The thing is that tiny problems eventually fester and grow and may drive a wedge in your relationship.

3. Boundaries

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Boundaries include anything from alone time, physical boundaries, sharing supplies, and food. With a stranger, these boundaries are already in place. What's yours is yours and what's mine is mine. Living with your best friend, it's important to set up boundaries before you assume they'll already be in place. Otherwise, next thing you know your roommate likes to eat your PopTarts and barge into your room to hang out with only the best intentions, but obviously that's not something you want happening everyday otherwise it spells out trouble for your relationship.

Whoever you choose to live with, whether best friend or not, you may encounter the above situations. It's best to talk out the good and bad of living together with your roommate and go forward with total transparency to both lead happy lives and a healthy if not stronger relationship.

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

Obviously the best superpower.

There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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