So many young millennials think that they have to be with their significant other 24/7. I don’t know when or how this became a trend but somewhere along the way it did. I think when you look back at past generations, they never had these issues or maybe they did it was just in a different way. Well news flash, I don’t spend every minute with my boyfriend and I can still function. I never understood why people wanted to go to school with their significant other, you are your own person. You can make your own decisions. Now before the outlash starts I get that there are some exceptions: it makes more sense financially, you both actually really like the school, etc. I used to be the girl that was completely attached to her boyfriend so I can totally relate. I used to think that my world was going to crash if he wasn’t there to hold it up. I can also understand the point that he’s your best friend and you just want to do life with them. I truly understand that, but I can function without him.
Now don’t get me wrong, he and I still communicate and we are constantly talking to each other or texting but he doesn’t know what I am doing every minute of every single day and I’m okay with that and so is he. He still knows what my day is generally going to consist of but not every single little detail. We can go a couple hours without speaking to each other and still be okay. We still spend time together and stay in contact but hes not attached to me at the hip. It’s great to be able to spend time with someone who you can call one of your best friends but having the opportunity to be on your own can be rewarding too.
I think the best piece of advice I ever got was someone once told me “you made it this far without him, you can do it again”. This advice was based more on a break up situation but I think it can be applied. I was able to function completely and independently without a boyfriend so why should now be any different that I have one? I still miss him certain days, but my world doesn’t stop spinning. I still know how to be happy without him. He brings happiness into my life but he doesn’t consume my life. He just makes it better. I don’t like every single little thing that he likes and vice versa but that’s what keeps our relationship so interesting. He can do some activity that he likes to do and I can do mine. At the end of the day, we can talk about everything! I am still me and he is still him. No one is changing and no one persons world is revolving around the others. This world is going to throw you curveballs and sometimes you will go down swinging. It is a pretty great thing to be able to go through life with someone but it also important to remember not to lose yourself in the process.