When someone says the word hater we all immediately have an image of a person or of multiple people in our mind. Perhaps this means that we all have our own definition of what a hater truly is, and perhaps the definition really is different for different people, but there is a bottom line. A hater is someone who tries to bring you down; they try to expose your flaws in order to make themselves feel better. Sadly, and we must all admit to this, we usually listen to the haters. We believe them when they tell us, or when they tell other people, what is wrong with us. How can we not? I firmly believe that the people who judge us the most are in fact our own selves, and so when someone else verbalizes the flaws that we see within ourselves, when they expose the insecurities that plague us day in and day out, can we help the fact that we listen to them? I do believe that it is possible to ignore them, and I believe it is necessary to do so.
When someone is trying to bring you down, what you need to do is think about why they are doing it. Some people like to bring others down just for the fun of it, and if that is the case, then you should probably feel sorry for the person that is doing it. If someone’s life is so uninteresting that they feel the need to entertain themselves by judging your life, then you must be the one doing something right.
There are also those kinds of people out there who simply cannot stand when you are more successful than they are. Now, I am not saying that there is anything wrong with competition; I myself am an extremely competitive person, but a line can be crossed. Some haters out there hate on you for being more successful than they are even when you put in ten times as much work as they do. With these kinds of people, there is no respect for the extra time that you put in. They simply expect to get the same credit for unequal work, and when this does not work out for them, they take it out on you. I’m not saying that you need to take the harsh words of these types of haters as compliments, because that is a bit of a stretch, but I am saying that you do not need to take their words to heart.
One of my favorite quotes says, “Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you.” As hard as it will be, you need to understand the words of these people for what they are and not for facts. None of us are perfect; we all have our flaws, but if the people who love you and who care about you are happy with you the way you are, then you do not need to worry about what others have to say. So many times I have found myself focused on the moment and on what is wrong with the current situation, but once I was able to get myself to see the bigger picture, I found that the situations that I thought were devastating were actually not bad at all. We all need to be able to see the bigger picture, a picture that disregards the unnecessary negativity in our lives. If you can do this, if you can get to this point, then I promise you that you will be a much happier person overall. Let the haters hate, and be content in knowing that, in the long run, these haters are completely and utterly insignificant.
