The following 100 life instructions come from a book (written by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.) I received from my grandfather. He was given this book many years ago, and he thought I would enjoy it. My grandfather has taught me many things, among which is that family is most important, live with integrity, and love deeply. While this book is slightly outdated, and some of the instructions aren't necessarily applicable to this day and age - learn how to operate a Macintosh computer - this book is filled with many reminders for how to live a wholesome life. I have combed through this book and come up with the top 77 (out of 511) instructions that society has forgotten, but definitely shouldn't have.
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1. "One day the people that didn't believe in you will tell everyone how they met you"
2. "You can close your eyes to the things you don't want to see, but you can't close your heart to the things you don't want to feel."
3. "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have fallen for the second."
4. "The problem is not the problem; the problem is your attitude about the problem."
5. "Being a good person doesn't depend on your religion, your race or your skin color or your culture. It depends on how good is your heart and how good you treat others."
6. "I think the thing to do is to enjoy the ride while you are on it."
7. "I am doing things that are true to me. The only thing I have a problem with is being labeled."
8. "I was always fascinated by people who are considered completely normal, because I find them the weirdest of all."
9."Love is not blind; it simply enables one to see things that others fail to see."
10. "People cry, not because they are weak. It's because they've been strong for too long."
11. "We're all damaged in our own way. Nobody's perfect. I think we are all somewhat screwy, every single one of us."
12. "I pretty much try to stay in a constant state of confusion just because of the expression it leaves on my face."
13. "I'm having too much fun today to worry about tomorrow."
14. "Music touches us emotionally, where words alone can't."
15. "Laugh as much as you breathe, love as long as you live."
I'm sure many of us have a peaceful place, for me I go to church to find peace and comfort. The only two places where I feel safe, at ease and comfortable are my house and my local church. During the rough times in my life, I just pray and meditate, knowing that my prayers will be answered. But even when I'm happy, or in just about any mood, I try my best to go to church as often as I can.
Surrounding myself with peaceful thoughts, positive vibes and people who care and love me are all very important to me. I feel incredibly blessed and humbled that I have an incredible amount of people, family, friends and mentors that I can trust. It is a great feeling and also assuring too!
Often when I am in church alone, I go inside and just sit down in a pew and just pray for minutes and sometimes hours at a time, if time allows me. There is just something that makes a place of worship so haramonious, vibrant and elaborate. The atmosphere is just so peaceful and relaxing.
I hope one day I get the opportunity to go to St. Patrick's Cathederal, in New York City. It is one of the largest cathederals in the nation and the world. I enjoy going to mass every Sunday and gathering with the church community! I am blessed to be a catholic! I feel amazing, happy and healthy!
Why you should yoga too!
Get ready, I am about to turn into the real preachy-hippy-type. But just for a second. I feel almost obligated when this one simple practice has been able to renew my body and mind. Okay, maybe not completely renew my body, I really am not old yet, my body did not really need renewing, but hear me out.
What was the only thing that could get me out of bed at 7:30 a.m. once a week (the earliest I ever have to regularly wake up)? Yoga. It seems like lately doing yoga has become a fad that will soon fade away to be replaced with the next new craze. So will yoga soon be in our memories the same way that gauchos and bell-bottoms are? I thought so at first, but I’m not so sure anymore.
I can remember my freshman year talking with one of my peers. The topic of yoga came up. He said that he took a yoga class in high school and it was the best semester of his life. He didn’t quite remember why he had quit; not enough time, he figured. I laughed and didn’t think much of it until this year (my sophomore year) when I started taking yoga classes.
My first few classes were nice, but when it started to become a routine part of my life, I really started to reap the benefits. I always went to class with one of my best friends, and I began to even become friends with my instructor. Their positive presence encouraged me to wake up every Wednesday morning at 7:30 for the whole semester.
I began to realize why I actually liked yoga so much, besides the good company, of course: it is all about me. And for you, it is all about you. Even though many claim that we live in a self-centered society, I would argue that our society is not positively self-centered. We are obsessed with criticizing ourselves and comparing ourselves to others; we dedicate too much of our negative energy, and not enough of our positive energy towards ourselves. yoga isn’t competitive (and I am just about the least competitive person out there), it is all focused on self-improvement and empowerment.
The first time I did the bird of paradise pose, I felt a positive rush run through me, as I was impressed by what my body was capable of when given the right prompting. Right now I am in the midst of conquering the “crow” pose. It doesn’t matter how well the others in my class are doing with the pose, but instead what matters is the improvement I make each week. I am focused on myself and trying to utilize all the capabilities my body truly has.
There is only one wrong way to do a pose: if it hurts your body. The instructor always reminds her "yogis" that if the current pose is painful, to modify it to what feels better. Moreover, you always have the option to come back into child’s pose in the middle of a session to refresh. It is so important to listen to what your body is telling you to ultimately create a connection between your mind and your body. Beyond that, we hold a great deal of our stress, physically, in our bodies. The poses, stretches and exercises in Yoga help release this stress from your muscles. This, combined with the meditation period at the end of each class allows both my mind and body to release these stresses.Yoga. I don’t think I am wrong when I say this fad is more than a fad. Our society needs an outlet for personal
Apparently being black and a vegetarian are mutually exclusive.
For two years now I've been vegetarian. I made the decision because I love animals and do not agree with the way they are treated in the mass food industry. Many disagree with my decision but that's not where I'm going with this. I'm not PETA here to throw paint on your fur. I'm here to ask why in the living hell is being black and a vegetarian such a paradox?
Yes, I know. However will I be accepted among the black masses if my plate does not both have fried chicken and collared greens? My chicken and waffles is lacking in chicken! Oh God! Oh Lordy! How can I be black?
Now that you've had time to soak in how utterly stupid that is you now understand my feelings in this situation. I tell someone I'm a vegetarian and they say "but you're black."
Yes. I am. Thanks for letting me know. What does my dietary lifestyle have to do with my ethnicity again? Oh that's right.
Not only have I gotten "but you're black" but also "you're not black." Not white black person but I simply am not black. After quickly giving myself an inspection to make sure all these veggies hadn't depleted me of my pigment(it hadn't) I wondered why anyone would say that. Then glass shattered and light bulbs lit up around the world as I had the most enlightening question hit me like a soul food induced heart attack.
Is my entire race defined by our fried chicken?
Don't get me wrong. When I used to eat meat my dad's fried chicken was a religious experience but I have several friends that will tell you the same. Oh and guess what. They're not all black.
Oh and guess another thing.
There is no race restriction on being a vegetarian.
Black Card Intact.
What do we have to hide?
Are you a rock?
Do you never feel emotion?
If you answered “no” to at least one of those questions, you’re a bonafide, flesh and blood humanoid with a working conscious and a pumping heart.
Now- imagine a world where everyone around you expects you to repress all of those emotions except for those that make you likeable. The only place you can express yourself is in the confines of your home, maybe not even in front of your friends or family.
That’s the thing with mental illnesses in athletes- people just assume that you’re fine because “depression and anxiety aren’t real illnesses,” and “athletes don’t cry.” Athletes themselves don’t believe depression and anxiety are real because of what they’ve been taught.
“Rub some dirt in it!”
“Ah, it’s not that bad.”
“Come on, get over it.”
Sure, you’ve got to be tough in sports. You prepare your body day in and day out- weights, conditioning, practice…they require all of your attention. But do we ever pay attention to our brains? Our mental health? Do those coaches/directors around and in the athletic world acknowledge that these are real problems for their athletes?
I’d like to think the answer would be a straight up, “yes!” but I have a feeling that I’d be wrong.
For some reason, there’s still a stigma around mental illnesses these days. The number of those affected has grown exponentially during the past two decades. But when you add those into an environment filled with tough skin and hard-headedness, an even bigger clash crops up.
We as a society are taught to ignore anything malicious and focus on “what makes us happy.” Great idea, right? Only pay attention to things that give you joy. I think that’s where we get sports, in a way, because they’re a route out of our own minds. We play sports because they’re fun, and when a coach, teammate…etc destroys your perception of the game you’ve grown to love by creating a wall in your head, dividing your outward emotion and your mental health, you get stuck.
Why can’t we talk about depression and anxiety in the locker-room or with coaches? Why do we have to feel embarrassed when someone mentions mental health?
1. Brittany Morgan,National Writer's Society
2. Radhi,SUNY Stony Brook
3. Kristen Haddox, Penn State University
4. Jennifer Kustanovich, SUNY Stony Brook
5. Clare Regelbrugge, University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign