Having a long-distance best friend is hard. Whether you were separated by a move, school, changing careers, or one of the other weird ways life works – it can be a hard transition.
1. Coordinating conflicting schedules
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The issue of our busy lives getting in the way of our social schedules is a pain everyone faces in their friendships. Try having to navigate not only that struggle with the friendships that can be maintained in person, but also the friendships that you cannot with those far, far away from you. Your best friend probably has their own new set of friends, and their own life, as do you. Finding a way to successfully balance your life while making time for theirs seems like such a feat when you can’t get together in person. You and your best friend will find a system that works, but adjusting to your new situations apart from one another can take time.
2. Keeping up-to-date with each other
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Coordinating your schedules is difficult enough, but when you finally find that balance between your life and theirs, that time can be tend to be a little limited. Its hard to keep up with the day-to-day happenings of each others lives, and soon enough one day they are mentioning someone on the phone you have never heard of, or talking about a place you didn’t know existed. It’s hard to stay in the loop with one another 100 percent of the time – and that’s OK. You don’t need to know every detail about one another’s lives to remain being BFF’s; you just need to know the stuff that counts (think: relationships, their closest friendships, pregnancy scares, etc). Once you start hearing about the big stuff, it may be time to start re-evaluating your communication situation.
3. Seeing each other in person only on breaks, holidays, or between extended periods of time
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You miss your best friend. I miss my best friend. The world can be cruel sometimes and find ways to separate you from your favorite humans. It can be OK though. If the channels of communication have been open, and the two of you have been good about keeping up with one another, seeing each other after a long period of time should feel like any other normal day of hanging out. You know you have met your best friend when you can go weeks without seeing each other, just to get together and feel as though you had never been apart; to seamlessly pick up just where you had left off. There is something about the bond of two people who are that close that it doesn’t matter how much time has passed. You know you love each other and that’s all that’s really needed to maintain the comfort in your relationship.
At the end of the day, your best friend is always going to be your best friend, and no amount of distance is going to change the bond you share. When you do finally get to re-unite, it’s the greatest thing in the whole world, so maybe the distance almost makes your friendship stronger.
