Once Distant Friends Are Now Closer Than Ever

​We Were Distant Friends, But Life Brought Us Back To Each Other

Life is never as sweet as it is when you guys are in it.


When times get rough, there is always that certain person or people you go to for comfort or support. Usually, it is someone you are with 24/7 and who knows everything about you.

There was a small point in my life when I had many friends, but no one I was close enough to pour my heart out to. I felt very lost and lonely for a period of time because I had all these feelings and emotions I wanted to let loose, but no one to help me do that.

I have these two friends, Ally and Haleigh, that I have known since freshman year of high school. We were very close in high school and did everything together. I could always count on having a good time when I was with them. They were my best friends. Towards the end of high school, however, we began to drift apart, since I went to a new high school and had made new friends. We never stopped caring for one another, but it was not like it used to be.

When college began, we realized we were all staying in the same dorm building as each other. We started to rekindle our friendship towards the end of freshman year, but it was still nothing like it used to be.

This past October, I went through really hard experiences and needed someone to open up to and listen to me. This was the small point in my life when I had a lot of friends, but no one I was really close to.

One day when walking to class, I ran into Ally, who I had not seen since the beginning of summer. We talked for a second and then eventually she invited me over to hang out with her and Haleigh at their apartment. This may just seem like old friends catching up, but this was a blessing in disguise for me.

With the three of us once being best friends, it did feel a little awkward when I came over for the first time because I felt like I barely knew them. I did barely know them. I eventually started to hang out with them more because they kept my mind off things and they were just familiar faces. Days turned into weeks and weeks turned into months, and they were still in my life.

They were my best friends once again.

These were the people who helped me out of the hole I dug myself earlier in the year and they did not abandon me after I got out of it. I would do anything for them and they know that, and I know that they would do anything for me as well. They have been in my life for years now. There have been many ups and downs along the way, but I would not want to go through any of it without them.

They may not realize how much they have impacted my life, but I hope after reading this they will.

Thank you both for the enormous support and love you have given me. I couldn't do life without you guys.

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To My Best Friend Who Doesn’t Know How Strong She Is

Always better together.

To the one I know I will always have by my side,

First off, thank you. Thanks for dealing with all my shit: my mess, drama, tears, and weirdness. There are so many reasons why you are my best friend; you are funny, amazing, kind and unbelievably supportive. I am beyond lucky to have someone that gets me and has been there with me through the best of times and the worst of times.

You are strong.

Life is difficult; I think we have both realized that by now. Whether you believe me or not you are kicking everything being thrown at you in the ass. You have been through everything and more and have always come out of it a stronger, and better person. You are never alone and you know that; we have been there for each other for years and that will never end.

You are special.

I have never met anyone with a bigger heart than you; you sympathize with anyone that comes to you for advice. You take things to heart and look at the world in a unique and beautiful way. You appreciate the little things in life, watching Dance movies with your mom, a late night snack at Taco Bell, driving with the top down and dancing like no one is watching.

You are beautiful.

You are way more beautiful than you think. You've got softness to you that is calming, a smile that is contagious, and a gorgeous girl with so much to offer. You are filled with love and compassion, an amazing writer, dancer and overall an amazing and beautiful person.

You can get through anything.

I know you are going through a hard time right now, but look at how far you've come. You have gone through way worse and you will get through this just like you have in the past. You will become even more powerful than you already are. You are experienced and that's part of what makes me love you so much. We have gone through a lot together and we know that whatever life throws at us we can handle it.

I am always here.

Your hardship is my hardship, but keep your head up high just like I know you can. You have so much love in your life, from your family, your friends and me. I love you, I have never had a friend like you and I am so grateful every day because of it. You are going to get through this. You are going to get through it because you are, powerful, you are beautiful and you are strong.

~Written with love and appreciation for the most amazing friend I could ever ask for~

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How To Cope With A Best Friend Breakup

Breaking up with a boyfriend is one thing, but breaking up with your best friend is a whole new level of heartbreak.


We all know breakups can be tough, but when that breakup happens to be between you and your best friend, things reach a new level of heartbreak. I met my best friend junior year of high school after our Spanish teacher randomly assigned us to be partners; we struggled so much in that class but in the end, we truly became inseparable. When senior year rolled around we were still close as ever; people would often joke that we were sisters because we looked and acted so much alike. We would go on little dates together, go to parties together, and were always the first person we called when something "major happened."

When my best friend's boyfriend of four years cheated on her while we were spring breaking in Europe, it became my duty to make her feel better; I would randomly drop off flowers and little notes to her house, spend countless hours just listening to her cry and vent, and even stopped talking to people associated with her boyfriend so as to show my "support." All of these things were no big deal to me considering I loved this girl like a sister; whatever she needed I was there to give that to her.

Things soon took a sharp turn when we entered not only the same college but the same sorority. While I was struggling with the social aspect of FSU, my best friend soon found new best friends. When I started having major issues with my boyfriend, I would automatically text/call my best friend as she did with me, but instead of support, I got the sense that she was passive and uninterested. Our little dates and goofy inside jokes disappeared and reappeared between her and her new friends, and my comfortableness around her soon turned into insecurity.

Coming to terms with the fact that the girl I knew everything about is now basically a stranger was a hard one to overcome; I didn't want to accept the fact that my best friend decided it was time to find new ones. It's heartbreaking knowing that the special things you shared with a person are now being shared with others, and it's hard to accept the fact that you aren't wanted or needed by the one person you thought would be by your side forever.

Since school has ended I think I have accepted the fact that we're no longer what we used to be. Of course, it still stings when I see social media posts with her new, college friends, but I just have to remind myself that this is part of life and I just have to move on. I will forever cherish the memories I made with her, but it's time to acknowledge that they were made with someone in my past, not with someone in my present.

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