My generation is all about immediate gratification. We know what we want and we want it right away. There is some of us though that like to be swept off our feet. We fantasize about the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend and all the cheesy romance that movies have put into our heads about relationships. Most of the time we were left utterly disappointed with our significant others because they do not view romance the way we do.
The ones who know what they want seek their matches on Tinder. I decided to use it a while ago just to see what was out there...and boy was that a mistake. Most of the boys I met wanted sex after the first date, heck some wanted to skip the date altogether. Romantic, right?
If you're like me you would enjoy a good Nicholas Sparks novel every once in awhile. He paints a picture of romance that makes a women swoon at the very thought. Romantic kisses in the pouring down rain, spending hundreds of dollars trying to win a stuffed monkey at a carnival, or the, so cheesy, romantic walk along a beach. These are depicted as Hollywood romance and sadly, none of that happens in real life. You'll be lucky if a guy even holds the door open for you these days.
Most guys find our fascination with romance off-putting or ridiculous. Which leads me to the realization that romance is dead. At least, with my generation. There are still a few good guys out there, they're just rarer find.
So to all you hopeless romantic out there like me, I've got a little advice for you:
-Avoid Tinder for starters, just don't do it. It's not worth losing your sanity or putting yourself in a position that you're not comfortable in.
- Don't settle. You might think that there are no good guys out there, but believe me there is. You just have to stop looking in order to find one. They tend to come when you least expect it.
-Keep being a hopeless romantic! There's very few of us anymore and it may seem like a lonely life, but we gotta stick together. We'll meet every Tuesday to drink coffee, watch Nicholas Sparks movies, and cry into our ice cream. I look forward to it.
Being a hopeless romantic in a hook up culture sucks, but it's not the end of the world! There are plenty of people out there who are just as in love with love as we are! We're what makes this world a better place! Who else would buy up all the romance novels and movies to keep the Hollywood world of romance in business? The perfect someone who lives up to your equivalent of Noah Calhoun isn't going to be what you expect. They're not going to come waltzing through the door and scoop you into their arms to whisk you away on the most romantic date of your life. No, instead they might just accidentally nudge your shoulder while you're at the library and strike up a conversation. So don't lose hope (no pun intended) because your Noah might be out there somewhere. And for the love of all that is holy...stay off Tinder! You're not going to find him there, believe me.
