Life As a Loner

The people who know me, know that I am a loner. I've gone out by myself, I've gone to the movies by myself, I've gone to concerts by myself, I've gone to conventions by myself, needless to say, I am very comfortable being by myself. However, when I tell people I'm going somewhere alone, I get a lot of questions. "Don't you ever get lonely?" "Isn't it awkward going to 'such and such' by yourself?" "Isn't there anyone who could go with you?" and to answer all three, no.

To be honest, sometimes I want to do things on a whim, and sometimes my friends don't have the time to join me. Other times our schedules just don't coincide and I don't want to have to wait. When I want to do somethings I will without having to wait for someone to join me. In a weird way, it's almost liberating going to events by myself. The other day I saw 'Annabelle Comes Home' alone, and I had the theater completely to myself which was nice. By doing this stuff by myself I can fully immerse myself in whatever it is I'm doing. Sometimes I meet other people and we'll strike up a conversation for a bit, especially waiting in lines at conventions and concerts.

Another type of question I get relates to safety. I always let others know what I'm doing, where I'm going, and what time I'm going to be there, and because I always have my phone on me, my location is on so my friends and family can locate me. By keeping people up to date, it makes them feel more comfortable.

There are times I wish I could hang out with my friends more and there are some experiences I'd prefer to share with them. If I waited around for them, I'd never do anything or go anywhere. Not to put any blame on my friends because that just how life can be, schedules don't match up and money can be tight. For while I wouldn't do anything if I couldn't find someone to go with and I felt worse about missing an opportunity to do something fun than just going by myself. However, I've come to the conclusion that I'm not going to let that stop me from living my best life and living my life at the moment.

I've always been an independent person and I don't see that changing anytime soon. Being someone in my early twenties, I want to experience as much as I can before feeling the need to settle down. Life is short and honestly, I don't have the time nor do I want to wait for someone's schedule to match up with mine. I want to live now and I am completely content if that means doing 99% of these things by myself.