People will hurt you and attempt to make you feel like you need them. That's when you walk away. Walk away from the toxic person causing you to feel down. If that person isn't helping better you, then go. Anyone who says that you need to just deal with this pain is wrong. Anyone who says that any form of love always hurts is wrong. It doesn't have to hurt. It hurts when you allow people in that make you question yourself. The way I see it, any type of relationship based on toxins is bad.
There's not much that we can necessarily control, but we have the ability to move on. Move on from the past, bad habits, toxic people and those who don’t want to be in your corner. It's true that you may feel incomplete in the process, but it’s better to pursue your happiness than drown in sadness. If those around you can walk around happy, then so can you. The biggest mistake we can make as individuals is to allow someone to have that power over us.
While you feel like you are breaking on the inside, life is still going on and that person can sleep at night. Their world isn’t going to stop. Underneath it all, you let the fear of moving on with your life hold you back. You don’t have to have that hole in your life. Let them go.
The hardest part about letting go is what you're leaving behind. You question if it's really the best choice or are you really just reacting in the moment? Sometimes our greatest strength can be our weakness. Sometimes we have to let go to better ourselves. It doesn't necessarily mean that things will become peachy instantly, but it's sort of a stepping stone. These stepping stones are like baby steps that you're becoming unsure of because you don't want to look back at the what ifs.
When it comes to dating, two toxic people can be incompatible. These people are consistently pulling each other down one way or another. These types of relationships can lead to emotional, verbal, and physical abuse. If one person in the relationship is toxic, then the other is becoming emotionally drained. The one hurting is the one continuously being told the things to believe that person will change. This can also be applied to family members and friendships. No one needs this type of negativity in their life.
Just because you let go of someone doesn’t mean you care any less. Letting go of these kind of people means that you were able to see that you are worth more than feeling unhappy. If you notice that someone is toxic early on, then set the boundaries that need to be in place. Do not let this person demand you.
Most importantly, you have to decide if that person is really worth keeping in your life. It’s not to say that they have no worth as a person. It just means that you honor your own needs and love yourself enough to not have this behavior effecting you. As I’ve said, it may be difficult; but we have to think about ourselves. You can love someone (family and friends) and care about them from a distance. If a person lacks respect for you, treats you poorly and ignores your feels, then it’s time to let go.
