It’s all too easy to attach on to relationships of all kinds, some being painfully unhealthy. And often, the unhealthy ones are those hardest to let go of. Feeling like you need to be there for someone no matter how you’re treated is a hard feeling to shake, and has a way of holding us in a moment life no longer intends for us to stay in.
Our feelings let us know right from wrong, and feelings of needing to let a toxic bond go can be exhausting when ignored- our hearts know life has better plans for us, more in store than the friendship or relationship we’re settling for.
And just when we’re about to let go, some great moment comes along as if to tease us and say “not yet”. But the truth is, the relationships that are meant to be in your life won’t drain or tire you, they won’t decrease what you feel your worth is or pull you down.
One way friendships and relationships are a good sign that the other person involved isn’t ready to be there wholeheartedly. Not that this is anyone’s fault, their path is filled with struggles too- but allowing it to weigh your heart down isn’t befitting either of you.
And the moment you realize this, it’s clear to see that loving something and setting it free are two small steps in the huge process of healing that has to take place after toxicity is removed from your heart.
Bravery is needed, so is the knowledge that it's sometimes okay to simply do what’s best for you and the journey you’re on. Letting go of the baggage of something that’s bringing negativity into your life will bring about a peace that only comes from having the strength to listen to your heart.
So, to anyone who’s having a hard time letting go of someone or the possibility that comes with the “what if I hold on…”, I wish you all the strength to let it go and let life do its magic.
Life will give you everything you need if you stop holding onto what you don’t. If someone’s meant to be in your life, they’ll be there- with all the love you need. Trust that.
