In relationships, letting go is never easy. As a matter of fact, for some people, it just may be the hardest things you’ll ever have to do. And, after all the heartbreak, tears, and sadness, one day, you will feel relief.
I know right now you’re probably scrolling through social media, coming across stories like these, crying, and wishing for him to come back. You’re sitting there watching your phone just hoping for his name to pop up again. You take a selfie and get all dolled up hoping he’ll see them and maybe like them. You go out in public, around the small town, hoping you run into him somewhere. Something exciting happens and the first person you want to tell is him. You wait and wait for something, you know, is no longer there. I too was doing this not too long ago.
There comes a time when you just can’t go that extra mile anymore. You can’t let him control your emotions. Although you may be shattered to a million pieces right now. There comes a time, when you have to pick yourself up and put the pieces back together. There is no timestamp on how long it will take you to overcome heartbreak. It’s truly different for everyone. But let me tell you something, when you finally let go, it feels pretty dang good.
Negative energy within a relationship is unhealthy. Fighting and arguing gets you nowhere. No matter how much you love someone sometimes, you’re fire, and he’s the gasoline. ”When you love someone so much, sometimes, you just have to let it go because you know that you no longer can be the reason for their happiness.” The famous line of my last breakup. At the time, it made my heart feel as if it was being torn out of my chest, but now, I know that, yes, this is very true. Some people just truly aren’t meant to be. Fueling the fire in someone is not how a relationship is meant to be. You can’t fix someone who doesn’t feel anything is wrong. You can’t change someone who doesn’t want to be changed. You can’t expect someone to be who you wish for them to be because, in reality, it’s just not who they are. You can’t force relationships to carry on. Again, sometimes, you just have to let go.
Letting go allows you to realise that it’s okay to be alone. We’re young. We don’t need someone, we want someone. It’s important to know the difference between craving someone because they make you better person, and desiring someone because in order to feel happy they are what you need. You are the only person who can make yourself happy. Happiness is an emotion you choose to feel. Relying on someone else to provide you happiness is setting yourself up for disappointment. Enjoy being on your own while you can. One day, you’ll have a family to take care of. Right now, honey, please take care of yourself. If you want to jump on a plane, move across the country, go to college far away, start over, by all means do so. You’re self worth is the biggest accomplishment you can receive from recognizing that it’s okay to let go.
You are worth much more than the tears. You are more than this heartbreak. Focus on yourself for awhile. Learn that it’s okay to want to be alone. It’s okay to feel relieved that it’s over. Start yourself over before you allow someone back in. Let go of what you know will never be the same. Let go of what you know you can’t change. Let go of the past. I promise you, darling, you WILL move on to something superior.
