At the age of 18, I began writing letters to the man I would end up marrying. In high school the prospect of marriage seems far away and almost like a fairy-tale. Yet, we are in charge of our future. If for any moment you feel trapped with your single status or lost in your relationship; consider writing letters to the man that may hold your heart in the years to come.
Being single was never easy. It had its moments of self- doubt and loneliness. Yet, it also forced me to do something about myself. It made me grow in confidence, ask myself what I stood for, and question the world around me. So I began to write. It challenged me to form an opinion on what type of man I wanted to spend my life with. It provided me with standards and expectations. Pursuing a relationship would mean that I would see him as being worthy of knowing my deepest thoughts and desires throughout a progression of time.
Instead of blindly moving forward; I had a vision for my future. I began with choosing a theme for each letter. Writing with a purpose allowed me to find my ground. Reflecting on what I defined as a father- outlined qualities to look for in a partner. Knowing yourself is important when pursuing a relationship.
My letters are untouched and will remain so until the day I wed the man I loved the moment I picked up my pen and started writing.
To my future husband,
I continue to make choices that I would not regret telling you. Knowing that you are out there has held me accountable for my actions. For those mistakes that I have made- forgive me. Just as I will love you for all the wrongs you may have done. I strive to be grounded in our uprooted world- for you. Hold me to it. Do not allow years to pass without demanding the best from me. After all, I will expect the best and nothing less from you. I pray that my future self will reflect morals and high standards- only time will tell. As we read this letter together sometime in the future my wish for us is that we live an honest life and prosper in unconditional love.