I get it.
It's frustrating having to answer the same thing 200+ times a day. I've been there, I've asked that. I know what it's like to have someone question your every move, but I also know what it's like to do the questioning.
It's a constant cycle of,
"Okay.. he texted me to come over..but he doesn't seem excited about it? If he was excited, don't you think he would have put a smiley face or something? Should I go or not? Well, how about I just text him back a maybe and see if his response is hopeful or not? Never mind, I'll just go over."
Every guy I've dated has said the same four simple words...
You think too much.
Yes, I understand. I know I think too much, but I promise you're saying that, won't get me to up and quit. In fact, it'll probably make me think about the fact you're aware of my over-thinking.
"Does he think I'm crazy?"
"Should I try and bring it up in hopes we talk about my craziness?"
"Well, what if he doesn't think I'm crazy at all?"
"You asked him if the reason he put mayo on his sandwich was because his ex-girlfriend liked mayo..."
"She didn't even like mayo."
I can feel myself doing it, but for whatever reason, I can't seem to stop the words that fall out of my mouth, nor the thoughts that enter-unwillingly-into my head.
From one over-analyser to the next, I'm truthfully sorry you have to deal with girls like us, but if you're stuck with us..there are a few things you should know.
We're freaking intelligent.
I can somehow piece together moments of your life without you even telling me. He gets done with work at 4:45, and doesn't get home until approximately 5:45. He only lives 20 minutes from his work, and every time you see him he isn't hungry This must mean he eats from 4:45 to 5:20...Which leaves him enough time to walk to his car. Then he drives home! You might call that stalking, I call it good detective work.
Hmm...
I can feel the sweat dripping onto the keyboard as you poor guys read this.
Okay in all seriousness...
Don't label us as crazy.
Just know we care.
No we aren't going to stalk your life, or harass you if your schedule doesn't line up like it did the day before.
We'll just think it.
We'll analyze it.
We'll stress over it.
I can't count how many relationships have failed because I made up my own scenario of what a guy was thinking based on his demeanor..texts...body language.
Sometimes I just want to smack myself because I find myself repeatedly analyzing every move my boyfriend will make. It's ridiculous, and I'm aware of this.
It's not because I'm crazy or obsessive, but because I can't help but wonder if I did something to make you upset, or you're not telling me the truth to avoid hurting my feelings.
Most of the time girls that are over analyzers are the ones that were hurt/lied to in the past.
It shouldn't infuriate you that we're like this, but really it should make you feel bad we went through what we did.
It's not healthy the way I overthink nor the way I look into every text/call/no text/no call/date/no date. It shouldn't be a make or break of my day but it is.
Know that I'm working on it and truthfully only need support and reassurance.
It'll get better with time, but there are still moments I'll slip up and my mind will race.
When it's all said and done, you have an overanalyzing girlfriend, but she over analyzes so much because she loves you. At the end of the day, that's the bottom line.
And to my current boyfriend...
Thanks for loving me despite the constant questions, false accusations, made-up scenarios. You're one in a million!
