To The One He Will Date After Me,
I know he moved on sooner than I wanted him too, but I don't hold that against you. The elaborate story he made up about how I hate you is so false. I cannot hate you because just a few months ago I was you. I was the same girl falling hopelessly in love too quickly. I was also the girl who ignored her mom when she said he was bad news. I was the same girl who turned a blind eye to all of the red flags for the sake of his baby blues. Take my advice and save yourself the heartache.
Do not apologize for the sake of ending the argument. It is tiresome and lonesome. You do not deserve to take the blame for his shortcomings. When he cancels your birthday plans for a gig, it is his fault. Supporting his dream doesn't mean you have to accept inadequate treatment. At the end of the day, when you're laying alone in his bed, ask yourself, how do you want to spend the rest of your life? Do you see yourself raising his children while he bangs his drums at a run-down dive bar? You deserve a man who will be there for you no matter what. You should be number one, not his pipe dream. Don't let the rock star persona fool you. You need a real man who puts you first. Maybe even have an intellectual conversation every once and a while. I mean, really, how many times can you talk about the latest issue of Rolling Stone?
When he belittles your successes, walk away. You are just as important and your achievements matter. He is intimidated by your beauty and intelligence. Your potential frightens him. He cannot handle a strong and independent woman like you. He needs a clingy girl to constantly chase after him. You're above that.
No matter how sexy his tattoos are peaking out of his sleeves, make him do the dishes. It's his turn. He has been pushing it off on you for weeks. No matter how many times he apologizes, he is never going to change. Even as he flashes his charming grin and tells you it won't happen again. It will. Trust me, you'll be scrubbing Mountain Dew out of his dirty glasses tomorrow night too. He is not worth it.
His flirting with the waitress at the bar is not "just being friendly." Listen to your gut feelings. If you would not do it to him then he should not be doing it to you. You know the truth even if it takes you awhile to open your eyes to the red flag.
When he tells you he loves you and he has "never felt this way with anyone before," he is lying. I can tell you for a fact that he is lying because he also said that to me and numerous girls before. And don't you want more than cliché, unoriginal lines?
When you find yourself crying on the bathroom floor because he destroyed what you thought was your whole world, take my advice; I know from experience. Eat a pint of Moose Tracks, watch "When Harry Met Sally," and move on. I promise you will look back on this day and thank him. His walking away is going to be the best thing that ever happened you.
