Dear Love,

I heard you were thinking about dropping. Is this true? I hope it isn't. You have done so much for me and for your other sorority sisters that it just wouldn't make any sense if you leave. I thought it was for life? Please consider what I have to say before you make what I believe to be a mistake.

After talking with my mom who was in the same sorority as me about not enjoying it anymore, I thought about dropping myself. My mother mentioned that she too thought about dropping and had her doubts and moments where she hated it. I found it so hard to be in this state of mind. Because I thought this was my home! I took the pledge to be a member for life, and now I was thinking that I made a huge mistake joining.

Everything was going wrong. I didn't understand how simple things could happen and cause me to hate it so much. I made a list as to what was bothering me and went on from there. They are probably similar to how you are feeling.

My first friend I made no longer talks to me.

She was someone who I hung out with all the time. We even have that initiation photo we took together with matching dresses. But it's okay to have more than just one friend. There are so many girls in the sorority that I haven't even talked to. My best friends are the ones I met doing the most random of things. You never know who could be a good friend unless you give them a chance. Talk to the other girls.

Girls were getting bossy.

Being honest, girls can be a little mean. And girls who are in charge can seem even worse. But officer positions are only for a year. If you don't like it chances are it will change faster than you think. They probably have no idea that you think that of them. Try mentioning it kindly to them.

I wasn't fitting in.

I wasn't getting along with girls and it seemed as though I was on the outside. It felt as though no one wanted me there. But that is not true. We are not going to be graced with compliments everyday. People won't remind you everyday that you are special. It is because of that, that we have to remember that we are loved and that we are appreciated whether someone mentions it or not.

I didn't have the time.

I was getting busy with a job, being a student, being on a scholarship for a sport, and juggling a social life. It seemed so hard to juggle a sorority on top of that. I had no idea how to manage my time and to figure out my priorities. Where in truth all of the above are my priorities. And all of what I do make me the way I am and I would be so lost if I didn't do all of it.

It felt superficial

It's hard to be in an organization with so many girls. We have to dress in matching outfits, and dress a certain way. We are told what to do constantly. And we find social media posts and pictures a right of passage whether we are cool or not. I felt like I wasn't being appreciated for who I was. I felt I was becoming someone else. But we have always been ourselves.

We all join for different reasons. We shouldn't think that hard where we ended up because we are the same. I thought about it and I realized that if I rushed all over again in the hopes of getting into a different house, I would probably unintentionally end up exactly where I started.

So sister it is important to remember these reasons because I can assure you that you not alone. And so many others have thought about leaving. But being in a sorority is a piece of you. It would be so sad to see you leave after all that you have done. No matter how hard it may seem, running away won't make it easier. Avoiding events and pretended not to care won't make your problems go away. You have to get in and make it happen. Please consider the options before walking away, but I can't stop you if you do.

Love,

Your sorority sister