A letter to the friends I lost over time,

Long time no talk. I don’t really know how to start off this letter, mostly because I don’t know where or how our friendship ended. It seems like yesterday you were my person; the one I would text when something exciting happened, when I needed advice on what to text my boy of the month, or the one I would call when I was so sad and all I needed to hear was your voice to feel better. Now we’ve moved on with our lives. We have new environments, homes, friends and even best friends. And although things have changed, I want to tell you how I feel.

I used to be sad that we lost each other. I held on to the memories we made and blamed us for not trying hard enough. I was mad we fell out of touch, something we promised each other we wouldn’t do. When we graduated, we had unrealistic expectations that we would make the time to talk to each other a few times a week. Obviously that was not possible and now I’ve realized this is just a part of life. The people you stay in touch with and remain friends with from childhood are limited to one or two as life goes on.

Maybe we’re just too busy to catch up, but I think we just grew out of each other, which is common. When we were hopeful seniors graduating from high school, we knew we had the whole world ahead of us, without realizing with that world, we were going to change, too. We were best friends because we shared the same interests in high school and had the same rebellious but hard working attitude that made us connect instantly. And now we’ve grown out of the main things we connected on, which is okay because we're becoming our own types of people. This is not me saying I don’t love the person you or I are becoming, but rather it’s hard because since we are so far away from each other, we barely know the new people we’ve grown to be. It’s almost bittersweet because I’m so happy you are growing into someone so amazing, but I barely know the person I used to call my best friend.

It’s important to say that I’m not bitter. There’s no reason to be. None of us ended on a bad note, we just fell out of touch. We shouldn’t be offended that we didn’t make time for each other, life just gets in the way. I want you to know that I will always cherish our memories. We grew up together. We learned about what it’s like to love, have our hearts broken, be rebels, work hard and grow. I don’t know who I would be without you and it would be such a waste to suppress all the beautiful memories we had together.

Lastly, I want you to know that I will always love you. I can never forget what it was like having you as a best friend and I will always appreciate having you throughout those years. No matter where we are or end up in life, no matter how much time goes by where we don’t talk, you always have a place in my heart, a bed on my couch and an ear to listen to you. Even though we might not be close or even at a talking point, I’ll still never question your 2 a.m. calls or random texts. You’ll always be considered a friend of mine.

Sincerely,