To my friend,
I know how hard heartbreak can hit; I have witnessed it for myself several times. It's a pain that is hard to get over, but somehow you just do it. You have always been there for me, so it caught me off guard this time when you were the one calling me, not the other way around. I started to panic a bit inside.
I panicked because a broken heart is such a fragile thing to deal with, and though, you have helped me through it time and time again, I was scared that I wouldn't know what to do to help you. The total time lasted in all of my relationships had not even come close to the amount of yours. I couldn't even begin to feel the amount of pain you were going through, right?
But somehow I did know. As one of your best friends, my heart broke when yours did. I wanted to crawl through the phone and hug you until the tears stopped. I found myself wishing you didn't live an hour and a half away. I felt so many things in that moment: sadness, anger, frustration. However, strangest feeling I had was relief.
You are one of the strongest women I know, and that is the reason I felt relief. Heartbreak may punch you in the jaw, kick you in the stomach, whatever it wants, but you come back swinging with full force time and time again. I know you'll get through this. I'll be with you every step of the way, helping out as much as I can, whenever you need me.
The thing I want you to remember though is, it's okay to hurt and cry and scream and break down. Everyone does it. Don't feel like your feelings are invalid because the relationship had been ending for a long time. Being with someone for so long leads to comfort and routine. These two things mean nothing without genuine love between the two people. You can't for a second believe that just because he didn't fight for you, doesn't mean no one will. There will be someone, someday that is worthy of your love and all you have to offer.
If you need to cry, don't ever feel ashamed to do so in front of me. Don't ever feel like you must put on a brave face for me. You have seen me at my worst and haven't run away. That is what friends do; they're there through the good times and the bad. I promise not to think any less of you even if you come over and eat an entire carton of Ben & Jerry's by yourself. I'll be right there beside you eating a second tub.
You are upbeat, strong, sassy and beautiful. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. Your heartbreak is valid and it's okay. And just remember that I will always be willing to fight for you.
Love always,
Beth
