To my future daughter,
I’ve made quite the handful of mistakes so far in my life when it comes to relationships and romantic situations with the opposite sex. I’ve learned, and have yet to learn more from these mistakes, and I hope that one day I can guide you and teach you the very lessons that I’ve obtained from them. Never do I ever want to see your striking eyes shed even half as many tears as mine once did, and by no means should you ever allow someone to convince you that you are not as incredible as I confidently know that you will truly be.
Don’t eat from the spoon that boys will feed you lies from. Be smart and know that the beautiful face you fall in love with is perfectly capable of showering you with beautiful lies. You will know when he cares, and you’ll know when he doesn’t give a damn. If he acts at all like he doesn’t care about you, then I can positively say that he doesn’t. Actions speak louder than words, and it’s essential that you see righteous actions before you hear perfect words. I can also tell you that if something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Trust your gut. Dodge the lies and the deception and keep your guard up as high as it needs to be; but be able to correctly identify when it’s a good time to let it down and ease up on your standoffish thoughts.
If he goes behind your back or commits any betrayal, then you make the decision you won’t ever regret, and leave; simply walk away. You are too good for unfaithfulness, and possessing the strength necessary to get out of something so needlessly corrupt is pure gold. Never feel obligated to stick around, never find yourself believing that he is the only male capable of giving you your taste of happiness. It’s so possible to find a man who will see your worth and who will treat you in such a caring way in that you begin to notice it yourself.
He’s capable of making you feel unimportant, but don’t let him. You should never have to feel lousy or embarrassed because you want his attention or more of it at any time. If he does anything but comfort you when you need to be reminded that he does, in fact, appreciate you, then he is undeserving of you.
When you cry or you have an off day, he should hold you. When your day is going greater than ever, he should celebrate and rejoice i it with you. A major part of being with someone is growing with them. You both should be seeking your true identities and simply doing life with each other at your sides. Root for one another, be each other’s greatest fans. If you seem to be the only one putting effort into it, please quit wasting your time.
Love should be simple, but unfortunately, I’ve come to find that it’s not. Heartbreak is almost inevitable, and so when you feel your insides shatter because the boy you’re in love with isn’t treating you in a way that leaves you writhing in happiness, I’ll be there with open arms. I will still hug you, and I will hold you. I won’t love you any less if you feed upon the lies, I will never make you feel stupid if you make the mistake of going back to him for the hundredth time because he solemnly swears he’s “changed.” I will love you no matter what, but I will also not stand for any awful treatment that comes your way. You are far more than good enough, always, just like I am right now; and the day that you realize that you should only be treated like the lovely girl you will be, will be one satisfying hell of a day.
