First, let me start by saying writing something like this is never easy, but being pushed into silence does much more harm. If you suspect a child is being abused, whether it be physically, sexually, or emotionally, please call 800-422-4453.

Dear biological father,

Sometimes I wonder what you were thinking when you looked at me. Did you see the innocence placed in your hands and think to yourself, “It’s mine to do with as I please.” Did you think of the trust a little girl has for her “father” and say, “She won’t know it’s wrong.” Did you think that just because I was shy and didn’t like to talk I wouldn’t tell anyone? In every way possible, you were wrong.

You stripped me of my purity and replaced it hate. You drained my confidence and filled the void with shame. You shattered my trust, hope, and peace only to be violently force-fed fear, distrust, and anxiety.

I’ve spent so much of my time playing scenarios in my head wondering what I would be like if you wouldn’t have taken everything from me.

I realize I wouldn’t be half the woman I am today.

I have made my fair share of mistakes, however, I have surpassed many expectations. I am not a victim of sexual abuse, I am an overcomer. In spite of statistics telling me what I was destined to become -- I overcame the odds.

I did not turn to alcohol, drugs or engage in sexual activity. I overcame. I had depression, anxiety, and overwhelming thoughts of not wanting to see another day. I overcame. Through elementary, middle and high school I had people judge every choice I made and tell me my goals were too high for “someone like me.” Now I am soon to be graduating with my second degree in college and using my education to build a career that focus’s on helping children who are going through similar situations. I broke the silence and I will never be talked back into keeping quiet.

So to you, my final words are thank you. Without you, I wouldn't have learned to fully depend on God and surrender my brokenness to Him. I wouldn't know how blessed I am to have my parents, and my sister. I wouldn't be as strong as I am.